I can’t even believe I’m writing these posts right now. Every time I type, think, or start to imagine baby #2, I get flooded with emotions, which is usually a mix of giddy excitement and a little bit of fear. I say the last part, because -I’m sure many of you have experienced this- we know we want to have another kid, and know we’re ready, but some days are challenging with just one. This parenting stuff is obviously the best in the world, and I wouldn’t change a thing, but I would be a flat-out liar if I said it isn’t hard The good and the beautiful things about it far outshine the tougher moments. I’ve just been telling myself that you figure it out, just as you did with one.
I’ve heard a share of mixed opinions, which is usually a variety of the following:
-Two kids is easier than one! You already know what to expect, and they play with each other.
-Two kids isn’t twice as hard as one. It’s FOUR TIMES as hard.
Obviously, I think it depends on so many things, and I’m excited to see how it works out for our family. I think a huge factor is that I already know what to expect, especially in regards to the newborn phase. Of course, this will be entirely different, but I think with baby #1, no matter how much you read, and prepare, and think you know, you still have the rug pulled out from under you. You don’t really KNOW until you’re there. Also, we had a bit of initial obstacles with all of my breastfeeding/pumping/anxiety issues. I fortunate to have some have resources and a plan if anything needs to be adjusted the next time around. (For example, if breastfeeding doesn’t work out, I’m not going to beat myself up about it. I’m going to do the best I can, and know that formula exists for a reason. I had to supplement with formula for Liv, and from what I can tell, she seems to be doing ok. 😉 )
Time to start officially trying. It’s nice that it feels more laid-back, and less…technical… this time. Instead of tracking my temp, and taking ovulation tests and the whole ordeal, we’re pretty much going with the flow to see what happens. Since I’ve been doing fertility awareness method for years now (I think 7 years?), it’s been a huge help in knowing when it’s a good time to try (or when to stay away, if you’re trying to avoid getting pregnant haha).
Here are some of the steps I’m taking now (within 3 months of TTC for baby #2):
-taking my prenatals consistently again, along with vegetarian DHA
-weaning myself off constant caffeine, and sticking to one glass of wine a night or less
-upping my produce and healthy fat intake
-skimming Making Babies (which has SO many great tips for TTC, and I read it attentively before we started trying for Liv)
-drinking Fertili-tea and taking one Fertile CM pill each day. (Obviously ask your doctor, but when we conceived Liv I was taking Fertile CM. That stuff is no joke.)
-being mindful of impact workouts around ovulation. The idea is that you don’t want to shake an implanted egg around, so I’ll stick to yoga, walking and spinning instead of Orangetheory and HIIT drills during that time of the month.
Fingers crossed <3