“Sorry about that”
(Baby’s first Zumba outfit, courtesy of Suzi! I LOVE it)
I’m kind of embarrassed to see my husband later today.
Last night, I had the first real, major, pregnancy hormone-related meltdown… and it probably scared him a little bit.
When I got home from work, he asked what I was thinking for dinner and I really wanted some kind of shrimp salad. The plan was to unpack, go to Coffee Exchange and blog so he could work on computer stuff, too (internet still hasn’t been hooked up in our new place), then grab some groceries to make food. We ended up at Coffee Exchange until 10:15 and by that time, I was starving. At that time, almost all of the restaurants are closed and it was way too late to start making dinner.
We got in the car, Tom stopped to get an eegee’s sandwich and fries for dinner, and asked me what I wanted. I asked if we could stop at Risky Business since it’s one of the few places open late and I knew they’d have shrimp salads.
“Well, I guess… I just need to wake up really early for work tomorrow.”
“Well if you don’t want to, it’s ok, I’ll just go home and make an egg or something.”
That’s when the meltdown started.
It was silent at first, tears quietly falling down my face as I looked out the window and over the span of 5 minutes, transformed into full-blown heaving sobs.
I don’t even remember what I said while I was crying (something about being hungry and he doesn’t even care, and I had a long day with work and unpacking and all I wanted was a salad, wah wah), but just remember feeling like it was the end of the world. Needless to say, we ended up at Risky Business and he went inside to get me a salad.
While I was sitting in the car, it gave me some time to eat a couple of his eegee’s fries, calm down and realize how absolutely silly the whole thing was. I could see him sitting at the bar, waiting for my to-go order, and called his cell phone.
“Are you taking shots at the bar because your wife is cray cray?”
He laughed and said no 🙂
Of course, I apologized and was back to normal after eating my salad, but wow.
I’m embarrassed.
Lesson of the story: Never let your pregnant wife get to the *starving* point. There’s no telling what will happen.
What’s the most legendary, silly meltdown you’ve ever had?
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Ah hormones 🙂 That’s cute though that he went anyways and you were watching him from the car! What a sweet accommodating husband you have!
there was no way i could go inside. i had eyeliner all over my face and bloodshot eyes, haha
whoops sorry for the unrelated reply!! i meant to reply to the comment under this one.
haha – same here. yikes. a mega-hungry (or pmsy) s is a recipe for disaster. pun intended, i guess.
Oh gosh, I’ve had meltdowns like that before and don’t even have pregnancy as an excuse, haha! Being a woman with crazy hormones is hard sometimes 😉
it is!
I’m NOT pregnant, and my husband knows to never let me get to the *starving* point. Hahaha.
If I ever get to that starving point, my husband know not to even talk to me, lol!
My husband always carries a granola bar with him – FOR ME.
That is a really good idea, Claire! When I get to the starving point, we usually have to leave wherever we are and get some food ASAP. I’ll have to tell my husband to start bringing backups so I can last longer. 🙂
i love that idea!!! i might give tom a larabar to carry around with him 🙂
I have totally reacted that way during the course of my pregnancy (I’m due two weeks before you are!), it happens. My husband now understands that it is vitally important for me to stay fed and rested, don’t get between me and a snack or my nap or crying and yelling will ensue!
yes!!!! that’s exactly how it is. in my first trimester, tom woke me up from a nap (at the time i asked him to!) and i started crying.
Haha aw! Don’t worry girl, I have meltdowns all the time and I’m not even pregnant!
The most recent was after a concert when I hadn’t eaten for a while. My body was STARVING so I became extremely irritable and lashed out at my boyfriend for no reason! Food rules my body way too much haha 🙁
I’m not pregnant and I’d probably have a similar reaction to have to eat so late — although I would have just ordered something from Eegee’s — I don’t even know what that is but it has fries so it sounds good to me.
My boyfriend calls it “hunger-beotch syndrome”. 🙂
hahah that’s exactly what it is
Well, I don’t think this counts, but he was once trying to cheer me up from something that was irritating me, and even though what he was saying was true and not mean to me at all, I teared up and then couldn’t stop from there. He asked me what was wrong, and I said that he wasn’t helping.
We were in public (at a drink place — no, not that kind of drink), so I didn’t totally break down or sob, but I couldn’t stop. This was probably the first time this happened in the years we have been together, and yeah, it was embarrassing. :$
Aww! I hear ya on the don’t let a preggo girl reach the starving point! Lol my hubby teases me and says I’m like a little kid who gets super grumpy when I’m hungry! Lol 😛 which is totally true, but I can’t help it. Don’t be embarrassed, these things happen, just laugh and carry on!
LOL I am sure it won’t be your last meltdown! Hmm, let’s see….I definitely freaked out on my husband during my second pregnancy because he forgot to turn the dryer on when there was a load of towels inside. I was trying to do more laundry the next day and opened the dryer to put the new load in….but the towels were still soaked. I started sobbing and yelling and it just seemed so hopeless. He looked at me weird and said, “Are you ok?” I was still freaking out and yelling at him. NOT my best moment! LOL At least he was understanding!
hahaha!
Haha! Oh no! I hope you don’t mind me laughing, but this is funny ( in hindsight), but so very real at the time! You can totally blame it on the hormones! I am not even pregnant, but I admittedly get grouchy and in tears when I am stressed out and sometimes make my boyfriend feel like it is something he did. Poor guy! We call it the “crank-monster” and he says he is scared of it. haha. He has learned specific ways to avoid the crank-monster and has memorized crank-monster inducing factors: lack of morning coffee, lack of daily workout, and hunger. Don’t mess with a hungry, uncaffinated, un-exercised girlfriend.. it won’t be pretty!
hahah i don’t mind at all- i think it’s hilarious today, but last night… not so much. 😉
Haha girl, I just had something similar (not preggo, just hormonal from the pill!)
I was driving two hours to see my boyfriend and he wanted to go on a double date for dinner, first asked if my vegetarian self wouldn’t mind eating at a seafood-heavy restaurant, when I asked for another suggestion and he told me a sub shop where I’d be eating a pile of iceberg lettuce with MAYBE a slice of tomato if I was lucky, after waiting until 10 or so for dinner and driving all that way to see him? I was bawling and feeling like he didn’t give a rats ass about me for a couple of hours. Yay, hormones…
I’m not pregnant but I get super cranky if I get too hungry. Sometimes Tyler will come home (my fiance) and i’ll be in the midst of cooking dinner and Ill say “..I haven’t had anything to eat. Don’t talk to me ’til I do” and he knows to just stay outta my way. My dad is the same way haha.
Don’t feel bad. With our son i wanted nothing to do with him in the first trimester, no touch, no look….nothing. he and my oldest son had to stay in the living room.
Ummm i had a bad meltdown on my bday when i was 4 mos……i was upset cos he hadnt said happy birthday to me. mind you he had bought cards, huge 2 lb box of candy from sees candy and balloons. but i didnt think i heard him say HB to me at all. So i had a ob dr appt that afternoon and just wouldnt talk to him til after the appt, then in the middle of the parking lot had a meltdown crying and stomping upset cos he hadnt said it yet. oh man, ever since then he knows to acknowledge every little thing.
I felt sooo bad later. but he said he understood cos of the preg.
Just this past Weds., I came home after working all day and teaching 2 aerobics classes to my bf asking what we were having for dinner. I said I would make meatball hoagies and that I picked up some fresh corn from my parents’ house. He said okay and didn’t move from the couch. The water for the corn started to boil and I was frantically making meatballs (it was after 8:30pm) and I realized that I hadn’t shucked the corn yet. I started to cry as I did it because he didn’t offer to come in and help and then I didn’t talk to him during the entire dinner and he had no idea why!
I guess we’re all a little ‘cray cray’ every now and then! 😉
Hormones are always to blame! Crying in my boyfriends kitchen because he didn’t have a mixing bowl. Yup. I was making dinner for his family and was so frustrated that he didn’t have basic kitchen supplies. Next time I was over he had mixing bowls, a blender, a food processor and spoons to stir things with. I blame it on hormones and being over tired 😉
I can’t think of anything right now but it has DEF happened!! Usually when I’m tired/hungry/stressed or all three. Every semester in college I had at least one meltdown during finals. You don’t sound that crazy though. Plus you apologized right away. I bet your husband has lots of shrimp and salad on hand for the rest of your pregnancy!
Girl, been there and I can’t even say it was pregnancy-related! I don’t cry often, but when I do… HOLD ON! I used to feel so bad for my ex because he’d look at me stunned like, “what’d I do???” And I would just sob over nothing. Hahaha, hormones are something special, and hunger certainly doesn’t help! Good thing you have what sounds like an awesome, super-supportive husband! 😀
i get like that even though i am NOT pregnant, when i get hungry i get very crazy and whiney and very grumpy, watch out!
Not/never have been pregnant, but if I was hungry at 10:30 at night, I’d be likely to do the same thing. I get emotional when tired, and to add hunger on top of that? It’s a sure-fire recipe for a meltdown.
But pregnant hormones are nothing to sneeze at! When my mom was pregnant with me, she thought I was going to be a boy (thanks to early 80s ultrasound technology and a strategically placed arm). When they were first married, they had friends with two toddler girls and my dad, one of three boys, thought it was the greatest. He said that, if they had 10 kids, he wanted all daddy’s girls. He was doing and OB-GYN intern rotation in my mom’s second/third trimester, and Mom would ask him about every baby he delivered. One night he came home and said, “It was a girl. Lucky people.” Mom says she cried and cried for the rest of the pregnancy, knowing he wouldn’t love their little boy (he would’ve!). Three months later, when I was born, she didn’t believe the doctors (who had worked with my dad) until they showed me to her.
Shoot, I get that way sometimes just from PMS 🙂 Don’t fret, men all think we are crazy anyways, just roll with it!
I can 100% relate.
I cried HYSTERICALLY one day when Trig finished the leftovers of something I had been waiting all day to eat. It would normally not be a big deal, but somehow it turned into this huge thing where I called him inconsiderate for eating the leftovers without asking me first and saying that he didn’t care. Ridic!
i’m glad i’m not the only one 🙂
Haha that happened to me last week! I had literally just started my period and my hormones were crazy. I had brought back sandwiches after work for my boyfriend and I since he was STARVING and I decided to save mine for later. I come back home after shopping a few hours later and part of my sandwich has “mysteriously” disappeared. I called the bf up crying “why did you eat my sandwich?????” and saying how selfish it was. His excuse was that he was hungry, again, and knew my sandwich would be so tasty if he just took a bite. Well just a bite turned into half a sandwich. He said he felt sooo guilty doing it but it tasted so good and he figured I’d only be half as mad since he only ate half of the sandwich. Ohhh men 🙂
Oh my gosh, this happens in our house too! I call my husband “Hoov” (like hoover vacuum) because he literally inhales anything in sight when he is hungry – even my leftovers. I get even more bummed because I have to eat gluten-free and since he can eat whatever he wants — I feel hopelessly starving (even though we have plenty of food that I could eat laying around) -but I wanted THOSE leftovers 😉 hahaha – Now he checks with me prior to eating my leftovers or else a straight up crank/tear fest may ensue! It is no wonder men don’t get u sometimes — WE don’t get us sometimes! 🙂
I wish I could say the meltdowns go away….but the post-partum hormones are just as bad, if not worse due to sleep deprivation! I would have a nightly cry around 6 p.m. for the first few months of Lucy’s life. Sometimes they were happy tears, sometimes they were sad tears….I’m sure Corey thought I was cray-cray, as well! It gets better, though.
Hahaha! Aww Gina, I’ve never been pregnant, but I have had meltdowns when I’m super hungry in the past too and I (think) I know how you feel!!
I know the feeling. My boyfriend calls it my “beast mode”, which makes me even more mad! Haha.
beast mode is the perfect description for it, haha
Haha, I’ve had this moment and wasn’t pregnant. 😉
Awww…you poor thing. Those hormones will do some crazy things to you. For me it was my first maternity clothes shopping trip. I was almost five months pregnant and totally in that in between stage where nothing fit but maternity clothes made me look 9 months preggo. I was at a store in a large mall and they had tons of cute clothes, but everything I tried on it what I thought should be my size was too small. I finally just ran out of the store bawling leaving a trail of clothes behind me. I continued to run crying through the entire mall and out into the parking lot with my poor confused husband running after me. The endorphens must have done me some good because when we got to the car and I saw the look on his face, I busted out into uncontrollable laughter. I think my husband watched me out of the corner of his eye the whole drive home not sure what I would do next!
Aww.. this is too cute! I have silly meltdowns too often and my hormones aren’t going cray.
Glad the pilot understood – as does my boyfriend when I go off the hinge for no reason!
I agree with the person that wrote post-partum hormones are just as bad if not worse because you’re EXHAUSTED!
One time when I was pregnant, I was so upset with my husband that I kicked him out and made him go to a friend’s house for the rest of the day so I could have the house to myself. While he was gone, I got in my car to pick up dinner and didn’t wait long enough for the garage door to open, so I hit it backing out! Nothing like texting your husband when you’re mad to tell him that you broke the garage door! To this day, I have no clue why I was so mad.
LOL – that is funny 🙂
It involved pregnancy and a giant, unrelenting craving for strawberries. And it was wintertime. In a small-town in Maine. No berries for miles. Never deny a pregnant woman her strawberries. It’s not pretty.
lol While this is embarrassing to you, I think it’s adorable. It must be hard to get outside your own head when you’re all emotional like that. Sounds like you handled it well though!
I get kinda cray cray at the starving point too and I’m not pregnant!
Haha – at least you have pregnancy as an excuse! Last Saturday morning I had made him and some house guests breakfast before running out the door to meet my training group and when I came back our guests were gone, Scott was back in bed, and the dishes (like, 4 plates and a few forks, nothing big at all) were still on the table and the tub of Earth Balance was still on the counter. I flipped out and cried and yelled about how insulting it was to come home to that. I was just drained after a really long run and was fine after I ate and showered, but you would have thought I had walked in on something horrible. Totally embarrassing.
I’m not pregnant and I’ve always had a problem with getting really distraught if I don’t eat regularly. I’ll just suddenly go from hungry to feeling shaky, sick to my stomach and having a headache, to having a complete and total meltdown. Blood sugar is serious buisness. 🙂
The downside is that whenever I am legitimately upset, people who know me well still ask me if I’ve eaten recently, which can be fairly of annoying.
I can only imagine that I’ll be a complete terror if I’m ever pregnant.
Aww haha i love it.. i act like that when im hungry and im not even prego!! ITS COMPLETELY NORMAL RIGHT!? 🙂
Haha, if the Pilot had a blog I wonder what he would write about the situation 😉 Smart that he is he probably was surprised at first but then chalked it off to hormones and telling himself that yes, you are the one carrying the child…
BAHAHAHAHAHAH!!!! That is hilarious!!!! Girl, I’m not even pregnant but if its a certain time of the month ANYTHING can set me off.
‘Oh no you did NOT just look at me like that!’
Aaww the pilot is awesome and your tooo cute! One time a guy I was dating let me get to the starving point, and I wanted starbucks oatmeal -for dinner- and he decided to stop to smoke a doob first (I was young, stupid and had poor taaste in men, clearly) and by the time he was finished starbucks was closed and he said ‘oh, woops, let’s just get mcdolalds?’ Dumped him on the spot, went home, made oatmeal.
Haha sounds familiar! I get so crazy sometimes. 🙂
I get crazy when I’m hungry even when I’m not pregnant! But the worst one I think (and my husband would have to confirm, since he’s the one that bore the brunt of the meltdown) was about 2 weeks before we were moving into our new house, I was 6 months pregnant and feeling really stressed out about everything–packing, moving, baby, having enough time to set up our new house for the baby, etc. I don’t even remember what happened, all I know is I started yelling at my husband, then crying, then he made me laugh then I was crying again.
And on moving day (at 6.5 months pregnant), my BIL and MIL were supposed to bring lunch and I was STARVING and they were still about 30 minutes away. I went nuts, yelled, stormed out of the house (my parents were telling me to behave, I guess I was acting like a 5 year old?) and demanded we go to Subway right that second. Which we did. I felt a lot better as soon as I ate something. Gotta love the pregnancy hormones!
This comment makes me sound like a crazy person, but I think those are really the only 2
My mom craved watermelon the entire time. I came out with a watermelon-shaped “giant hairy nevus” on my arm that had to be removed. She REALLY wanted watermelon. LOL
I think any hormonal woman is entitled to a breakdown every now and then! I just sobbed in the doctor’s office the other day (everyone reassured me that it is normal, ESP when you are hormonal! I’m not pregnant but going through IVF right now so you could just imagine!). My MIL was with me too. I was so embarrassed! I’m over it now. Don’t beat yourself up about it, its normal and healthy!
Haha this is so cute! AND TRUE. I had a similiar meltdown. You know how far Fayetteville can be from Raleigh since you lived here, right? Well, we were driving to Raleigh to check out strollers and after the two hour drive I was STARVING and had to pee. I had only eaten breakfast at 8:00 and had worked out afterward so I was ready to knaw my arm off….anyway, we get to Raleigh at 12:30 and because the store didn’t open till 1:30 I figured we’d get something to eat and I could use the bathroom. However, my husband just pulls straight into the store parking lot, turns off the car and says “okay, let’s wait.” And that’s when I broke down. I was appalled, he should know how hungry I am, I’m freaking pregnant! Why would he go straight to the store when we have an hour to kill? He should have known to go somewhere I can get some food! After getting angry with him, he took me to a nice restaurant right away and all was good 🙂 Later I realized he’s not a mind reader and guys don’t quite understand pregnancy hunger, talk about feeling horrible haha!
Cutest onesie ever! I have weekly meltdowns over wedding planning.
I get very Hangry (hungry=angry) when I’m starving. My husband knows this too because if I’m not acting like my normal self he’ll say “Let me guess, your hungry” or “Do you want a snack?” haha!
I had a major meltdown when I was a few months pregnant and moved into our new house. The house needed alot of work (which my husband knocked out before the baby arrived) but at the time it seemed so overwhelming and I freaked. With all your changes, albeit good changes, it’s a lot going on and it seems like you’ve handled it all very well. So I think you’re allowed a meltdown!! 🙂
Know what’s embarrassing? I’ve had meltdowns like this with my boyfriend before…and I’m not (nor have I ever been) pregnant. Oy. That’s a wake up call!
When I was pregnant, I went crazy because a Cold Stone Creamery that was supposed to be open (according to the hours posted online) was closed when I got there at 10:30 pm. I was crying and so frustrated and really thought about calling their corporate headquarters to explain how cruel they were to be closed when I needed them to be open. LOL!
I just LOL’ed at my desk at work. 🙂
I think I was still in my first trimester and I said I wanted a doughnut while we were at the grocery store. My guy replied with something along the lines with ‘oh, you don’t really need that.’ Yeah..major breakdown. My son is 18 months old and we still mention the doughnut incident…at least now we laugh 😉
Oh my gosh! I get like that NOW if I’m starving – this is why I figure being pregnant is just one bad idea for me. My husband has QUICKLY learned, to shove SOMETHING in my face – anything – to get my blood sugar up and help me start thinking like a rational woman again. 😛