“Sorry about that”
(Baby’s first Zumba outfit, courtesy of Suzi! I LOVE it)
I’m kind of embarrassed to see my husband later today.
Last night, I had the first real, major, pregnancy hormone-related meltdown… and it probably scared him a little bit.
When I got home from work, he asked what I was thinking for dinner and I really wanted some kind of shrimp salad. The plan was to unpack, go to Coffee Exchange and blog so he could work on computer stuff, too (internet still hasn’t been hooked up in our new place), then grab some groceries to make food. We ended up at Coffee Exchange until 10:15 and by that time, I was starving. At that time, almost all of the restaurants are closed and it was way too late to start making dinner.
We got in the car, Tom stopped to get an eegee’s sandwich and fries for dinner, and asked me what I wanted. I asked if we could stop at Risky Business since it’s one of the few places open late and I knew they’d have shrimp salads.
“Well, I guess… I just need to wake up really early for work tomorrow.”
“Well if you don’t want to, it’s ok, I’ll just go home and make an egg or something.”
That’s when the meltdown started.
It was silent at first, tears quietly falling down my face as I looked out the window and over the span of 5 minutes, transformed into full-blown heaving sobs.
I don’t even remember what I said while I was crying (something about being hungry and he doesn’t even care, and I had a long day with work and unpacking and all I wanted was a salad, wah wah), but just remember feeling like it was the end of the world. Needless to say, we ended up at Risky Business and he went inside to get me a salad.
While I was sitting in the car, it gave me some time to eat a couple of his eegee’s fries, calm down and realize how absolutely silly the whole thing was. I could see him sitting at the bar, waiting for my to-go order, and called his cell phone.
“Are you taking shots at the bar because your wife is cray cray?”
He laughed and said no 🙂
Of course, I apologized and was back to normal after eating my salad, but wow.
I’m embarrassed.
Lesson of the story: Never let your pregnant wife get to the *starving* point. There’s no telling what will happen.
What’s the most legendary, silly meltdown you’ve ever had?
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One time during a huge fight with my college boyfriend he said something about me not liking his body, Which was totally not true and totally not what the fight was about. It was such an epic fight about nothing that we had to invent stuff to keep the fight going. I was so tired and upset and, sadly, a little drunk that I tried to kick his leg in anger but I knew I didn’t actually want to hurt him so instead it was this lame little “oh shucks” sweep of my foot and I missed his leg and ended up just kind of pressing my shin against his calf.
That fight is forever remembered as the Halloween battle of 2006.
Okay, I’m not pregnant and have had meltdowns like that before. I must be crazier than you.
Chelsey, I was going to say the same thing! My husband is scared for when we do decide to have children because he’s afraid what moods those hormones are going to cause!
Ditto!! My Hubby says he will end up building another addition to live in !!LOL
Ditto times 3. Hubs always fears the wrath of both my already epic cravings for foods *thai food especially….mmmm, curry* and my awesomely terrifying hormonal ability.
I’ll just chime in to say I also have crazier meltdowns that this esp. when hungry and I’m not even pregnant. YAY Lady hormones!
Ditto times 4!! I’m there with you ladies!
I’m so glad someone else said it first. Hah! Me too.
SAME! and I am not and have never been preggo! Yikes! It seems whenever my fiance and I have these fights it is always late and one or both of us are exhausted!!
Random crazy cravings that turn on a dime has been a running joking between my husband and I and my mini meltdowns. And I’m Not pregnant. LOL. He and I both fear what I will be like when I do get pregnant. Perhaps it will all balance out and I will be all Zen 😀
Hilarious… But I can totally see the embarrassment. Glad you got your shrilly salad and felt better 🙂
Hahaha, thank you for posting this, it makes me feel better about my hormone-related meltdowns, and I’m not even pregnant! When I was on the Pill it was HORRIBLE! Your story was sweet though, I think we’ve all been there…hormones + hunger = baaaad combination. I feel like I should show Tom (my boyfriend, not your Tom, lol!) this post and comments so he knows it’s not just me…it’s clearly a girl thing! 😉 xyx
The pill can make you cray-cray!! Raging hormones and we’re not pregnant!
awwwww bahaha, it happens. I can go a little cray cray when I’m starving too, and I’m only eating for one.. I can’t imagine the craziness two ensues.
Food plays such an important role in our lives! My FIL keeps a can of cashews in his car for when he NEEDS something! He gets nasty when he gets hungry! And my daughter (or actually her boyfriends over the years) noticed that when she seemed in a mood…take her out for food! And my SIL almost passed out in Target when she was pregnant! She was at the register and felt it coming…she handed her phone to the cashier and said CALL _______ !
Please always carry something with you! I find I just need to know where to grab a coke somewhere close! (or send DH to get one for me)!
I wish I could blame things like that on being pregnant……..jinx, no I don’t! I am sure he will forgive you!!!
Aw. I get like that sometimes….and its always with the boyfriend. After I had shoulder surgery last year, we were in Publix grabbing groceries. I wanted him to do everything for me because I was using my sling and I just started crying in the middle of the store aisle because he went off to find something on the list. Crazy.
I’m also not pregnant & totally cried & refused to eat one time b/c I ordered nachos with queso and they gave me nachos with shredded cheese on top. YIKES. The worst part? After deciding I actually was hungry (& my boyfriend pointing out that I was being absurdly ridiculous)…they actually did have queso on them. Oops lol.
lol this made me laugh.
One of my worst meltdowns was last Winter. Mike typically starts my car for me in the morning since he leaves earlier than I do. So I yelled out to him, hey start my car and am about to toss my keys at him. He goes I’ll start it in a few, you let it run too long. I said NO I WANT IT STARTED NOW. FINE! I’LL DO IT MYSELF and stomped out of the house to the car. I furiously started my car and came back in inside. He went into the office and ate his breakfast. By the time he came out, he goes are you done now? I started cracking up and said sorry. I guess I had woken up on the wrong side of the bed! I retold that story several times and even now I’m still laughing about it. Total ridiculousness.
I know exactly how you feel! I’m pregnant — I think about a week ahead of you — and last weekend had my first complete hormonal meltdown. I was hungry, it was getting late, and my husband asked me if I wanted quiche or soup for dinner. In that moment I just felt so overwhelmed by having to make a choice that I said I don’t know and burst into tears! And not just little tears — heaving, sobbing so hard you can barely breathe tears, haha! It took ten minutes for me to calm down, but my husband made me a little snack and as soon as I ate something I felt a hundred times better and could tell him that actually I wanted sweet potatoes for dinner 🙂
Oooh getting too hungry is a warning of a major meltdown coming from me. That will put me in the worst head space ever! Now just imagine being pregnant on top…oy. No wonder you freaked! Glad you calmed down 🙂
Glad the outfit arrived safe and sound! There was a mix-up at the post office and the chick didn’t charge me the right amount of postage or put a customs form on the package :\ she realized later and fixed it (and I think paid for the difference in postage herself).
Honestly, I act like that even if I get low on carbs! I start crying like a two year old and don’t know what to do with myself :S If you’ve mad it this long in your relationship without having a crazy crying meltdown over being hungry, pregnant or not, I think the pilot should count himself lucky.
Do you think he’ll check the blog while at work today to see if you posted anything about it?? Lol, I totally would if I were him!
I LOVE that you calmed down and owned up to the crazy – he’s lucky to have you! I have had a few weird moments during my pregnant – getting inordinately cranky or, like you, crying over something small (often when I was hungry). My husband has handled it well, too. But I always make a point to apologize and I try to catch myself when I’m going in that mode. Hormones definitely play a role in it, but I don’t want to cop out and give them all the credit! It’s really refreshing to hear you admit you went a little bonkers but not just blow it off as “I’m pregnant I can do that.”
I just had to laugh because this goes perfectly with the comic you posted the other day… “It’s just that the water is taking so long to boil!” 🙂 I’m not even pregnant and I still have days like this…I think it was last week when I was seriously laughing and then sobbing within a few minutes time…he must love me a lot! 😉
I’m sorry – A: because you had a meltdown and B: because it made me laugh. I was pretty lucky that I never had any pregnancy induced meltdowns. Although I did have a raging bitch moment about a week before I found out I was pregnant. All of my meltdowns occurred after the baby was born – the newborn stage is HARD!
Same here! I was pretty calm and normal during pregnancy and then after our baby was born– BAM! I would start bawling and picking fights over the dumbest things. My poor hubby– he was such a good sport though!
when i was preggo, I was starving (which was always!) and we were at the mall, and nothing sounded good to eat. I ended up getting a cheeseburger and I took one bite and the tears just started streaming down my face. My husband looks up and is completely confused as to why I was crying. I didnt want the cheeseburger but I was so hungry! I had a major meltdown about it, then out of nowhere started cracking up laughing at myself for crying over a cheeseburger! oh, the joys…… 🙂
I’ve had pleeenty of meltdowns in my life over all kinds of things. Epic ones. They’re always about some minute trigger but symbolic of something deeper, so I never regret them. Your husband was thinking of himself (not that that’s always bad–he’s concerned with being good to go at work the next day) and you weren’t able to be assertive at the moment (Oh hell no, we’re feeding me..NAAOOOOO!).
At this point, though, I’m usually able to warn my husband. I just tell him flat out that a mood swing is coming and it’s not him, but I really have to be angry and cry right now. He says ok. lol. He stays nearby and eventually it passes.
Don’t be embarrassed. This is real intimacy! 🙂
Oh man…I’ve had a few gooders when I was preggers. I remember baking cookies one day and they came out flat and hard as a rock. I started crying and throwing them across the kitchen saying how bad a cook I am and that hubby is going to leave me because I won’t be able to bake simple cookies for our kids! Hubby laughed and then I finally ended up laughing (kind of) 😉
When I was pregnant, I asked my husband to go to the store and pick up a particular kind of ice cream for me. He brought back a brand and flavor that I didn’t like, and I threw a shit fit and started crying. He actually went back to get the right kind for me. I can’t believe how nutso I was! Thank god for patient hubbies!
I loved this story… especially how you could joke about him taking shots at the bar 🙂 I definitely have meltdowns with my sister. We just go off on each other and then realize how ridiculous we are being. That’s what’s great about fighting with ones you love… they know how to let it roll off their shoulders
Totally thought the second line of the shirt said AMISO.
Maybe I’m dizzy 🙂
Oh I loved reading that post! Haha I’ve had far too many um breakdowns like that lol. I have a serious dairy allergy and now am sensitive to gluten so if i am out with my fiancé and starving but there don’t seem to be any food options I lose it a little. One time we were on vacation in Cabo and after a day of festivities on the beach his friends and I were all starving. Everyone wanted to go to this Italian restaurant- which basically meant I wouldn’t be eating. My allergy is so sensitive I can’t have butter or cheese etc. I went out side and sat in the truck and cried about how I was going to starve to death and he didn’t care. Lol not my proudest moment. Now I keep multitudes of clif bars in my purse should there ever be an emergency. Lol live and learn!
oh, no. I’ve been there – I’ve done this when I get too hungry (and not even pregnant!) 😀
Jason knows now, and sometimes will tell me “you need food” because he can sense my WACK before I can. 😉
You are pregnant so you have an excuse. I am not pregnant and have no excuse. I have meltdowns all the time. It depends on the day what the meltdown could possibly be about.
I am on your side though with this meltdown, he was able to stop to get his food. You should be able to get yours. My bf and I battle with this since I am vegan and he well…eats whatever he wants. 🙂
Cute Zumba outfit!
In college I was taking birth control pills that made me INSANE. Raging exorcism insane. My poor roomates. Once a bird flew into my apartment, went into my room, shit on all of my things including my computer, and I had a paper due in a matter of hours. To say I lost it is an understatement. I was screaming at the top of my lungs, threw the biggest temper tantrum of all time and went running through the apartment complex begging people to help me get the bird out of my room.
And then once that was over, I couldnt even print my paper because my printer decided to break down which sent me into a sobbing fit.
My roommates came to check on me and then just walked away. Haha. So embarrassing. And I switched my bc a few weeks later.
This story is cracking me up right now! I love it!
bahahaha this entry was hilarious. I have meltdowns like this over food all.the.time. as embarassing as that is to admit. Hungry Reghan = watch out. It’s even a joke in our household when I start getting cranky around dinnertime Collin will say “oh I better feed you fast!” LOL and if we start arguing around meal times I just say “can you just let me get some food into me and then we’ll talk?” haha
I’m kind of afraid to see how bad it’s going to get when I’m pregnant :s
LOL. I’m not laughing at your meltdown, but the way you retold the story is hilarious! I’m glad everything is better now!
I am 17 weeks pregnant and that seems totally normal to me. Never deny a pregnant woman anything.
Awww, I think this story is soooo sweet! Hormones. They’re so unpredictable!
Don’t feel bad, though! I’m far from pregnant and have similar meltdowns all the time!! My husband is a saint, lol. He knows my hormones aren’t a force to be reckoned with. 🙂
oh girl, I’ve had way worse and I’m not even pregnant. I think I got upset one time at the husband not wanting anything but a salad for dinner and I wanted to make salmon. haha.
I totally understand (and I don’t even have a pregnancy to blame). You inspired me to blog about my own crazy on my blog (http://kellyim10.blogspot.com/2011/07/feed-me.html)
sooo funny! I’ve never been pregnant, but I’ve had friends who have told me some absolute HORROR stories 100x worse than that! I’m sure he understands! You’re bakin his baby in there and you need some food! : )
Loving these posts! It’s so nice to realize your favorite bloggers are human too. I’m not even pregnant, but I could see myself doing the exact same thing when I’m starving!
I’m PMSing right now and definitely had a meltdown this past week with my boyfriend. My boyfriend told me over the phone that he’d love it if I was more affectionate sometimes (and really, what guy EVER says that?) It should’ve made me happy and grateful that he feels comfortable getting intimate, but instead I was CRAZY.
“WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU WANT ME TO BE MORE INTIMATE?!”
“Well I – ”
“NO, ARE MY KISSES AND HUGS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU????”
“I didn’t mean -”
“I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU WOULD SAY THIS TO ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”
And then I just went into a sobbing fit and now one week later I can’t even tell this story without laughing uncontrollably. And you’re pregnant, geez. I have absolutely NO excuse!
Mine is soo similar to yours! We were stationed in Beaufort, SC and the only two restaurants open past ten was Waffle House (gross) and Applebees (somewhat less gross). ALL I wanted were some french fries. That’s all, lol. We were with a group of friends who were taking their time about getting to the restaurant. When we arrived at Applebees it was only 15 minutes until closing time and my husband refused to go in- he had worked in food service previously and felt it rude to enter that late. Sooo we ended up going to Waffle House. Nbd. Until I realized that Waffle House does NOT SERVE FRENCH FRIES. They have hash browns- NOT the same thing. Tears fell. In front of our friends. It was awful and redic, but I couldn’t help it. It is a funny story now that comes up all the time…it will be one for you too!
I was pregnant at the time…forgot to mention that, lol. I’m not usually that psycho over french fries. 🙂
Love that story! I’m not preggers and think I might be that psycho with fries… it’s my biggest and only weakness ever (aside from watching Jersey Shore).
And I have to say that I LOVE Beaufort! My family has a home on Fripp Island and we often go “into town” to Beaufort and catch a movie, shop, or go out to eat. My favorite restaurant is definitely Plums!
I get a little crazy when hungry too. It used to annoy the BF (I’d be hungry every 2-3 hours) but now he knows me very well. If I get tired and cranky it means I’m hungry. Sometimes I’ll just point to my mouth and he’ll get the hint. He says that the satisfaction I get from eating is pretty amusing (apparently I’m super happy when I do get to eat something) so he doesn’t mind. I’m not even pregnant though. I wouldn’t want to know what I’d be like if I were pregnant AND hungry.
I definitely get crazy when I’m hungry, and if you add PMS to the mix, then I feel real bad for my boyfriend. 🙂 There was one time when we went over to his parents house right around dinnertime to drop something off. We planned to make it a quick stop, then head over to Winking Lizard for a bacon bleu-cheese burger, french fries, and a really big glass of wine. That’s all I wanted that day thanks to Aunt Flo. Well, a quick stop turned into 2.5 hours, one bottle of wine later (hello tipsy and hungry), so when we finally left I burst into tears and told him that I knew we would be there forever and all I wanted was food. Mind you, we had a really good time with his parents… I let it all out, then laughed and told him I’m sorry. Once I took that first bite of the burger, it was like the crying never happened. 😉
I feel like I get like that when I’m hungry in general non-pregnant. I did have a meltdown a couple weeks ago. We dropped our dog off at the dog boarders (which he loves) because we were going away for the weekend, and I just broke down in the parking lot afterward. I was convinced that our puppy who loves playing with all his puppy friends felt like we were leaving him. I cried for a good 15 minutes before finally composing myself. I’ll be a wreck when I have kids.
Gina, I am laughing out loud right now. I have done almost this exact same scenario–more than once–with my boyfriend, and I am NOT preggers. Haha. Just crazy and emotional on occasion. I can SO relate. So don’t feel too bad 😉
Oh, I’m so happy I’m not the only meltdown-prone pregnant woman right now. The other night I flipped out because I recently lost the belt to a dress I’m wearing to a wedding tomorrow. Don’t know how I lost the belt, and yep, I probably could buy another. Yet I stood in my closet, yelling at my husband that he “didn’t understand how hard it was to find clothes that fit right now”, and that I’d “probably never be able to wear this dress without the belt” and that I’d “just throw it in the trash”. Yikes.
And guess what dress I’m still wearing to the wedding? Yep, the one that I was supposed to throw in the trash.
Girl you’re pregnant. Your life has been turned upside down with the move. The purchase of the house. The short sale. OF COURSE this is 100% natural!!! When we moved 2 weeks ago, I had my fair share of snapping and freaking out’s at Scott. I had also just been on an international trip 24hrs prior to the moving truck rolling up due to horrible and unforeseen timing of that trip and our move, so when I came home, no sleep, the move, the stress, having all my belongings everywhere…the chaos-fest…yes, VERY short, snappy, and cranky. With a few meltdowns! And I’m not even pregnant.
Hang in there honey and you are doing AWESOME! Tom’s job is just to smile, nod, say Yes, Dear. And give you a hug and not ask any questions later and not make a big deal out of it. 🙂
Awwe, Gina! You poor thing! That was very nice (and smart!) of Tom to go to Risky Business for you.
Also – LOVE the baby outfit. Adorable 🙂
Oh gosh, I can totally relate! I’ve only had a couple of major meltdowns over the course of my relationship, but they’ve always been over something really stupid that I’m embarassed about when I look back on. I think they’ve probably when I’ve been hungry too… I can get a little moody when I’m really really starving!! Bahaha! x
Hahahahaa I literally just LOLed. When I was on birth control I had those crazy meltdowns allll the time and it was not okay, my boyfriend at the time was such a freaking trooper and dealt with me and my crazy. Shrimp salad yessss <3
Eh that’s not that bad! I get realllllly cranky away when I haven’t eaten and I’m super hungry. Heck you’re probably even more hungry than I am with a baby taking all your nutrients to grow lol!
My biggest melt down was probably when I recently turned vegetarian. My boy-friends mom the day before got into an argument with me about how she’s “part-time” vegetarian and barely eats meat except once a day. I thought that was CRAZY. Then the next day for dinner she makes hot dogs and walks in with a plate for Josh (boy-friend) and I. I just stared not knowing what to say and Josh said, “Mom Chelsea can’t eat that you know that.” I didn’t want to start anything so I just said, “No no it’s fine…” after not eating because she had told me she’d make something (or else I would’ve made something for myself). Needless to say I started silently crying as well and Josh saw and went in the kitchen and made me an omelet to surprise me. It was really sweet on his behalf but I still don’t understand why his mom to this day trys to hide meat on my plates…
When I was 17 I started taking the birth control pill. During the first month I was basically a whole different person. But one night my boyfriend and I were going to stop at Wendy’s (before we were vegetarians hahaha) to get a quick dinner before our date night at the arcade. I ordered a Cesar salad but ended up with a side salad. My boyfriend suggested that it’s just a salad, same thing. I proceeded to scream and curse at him, telling him it was not the same thing, and I effing wanted a Cesar salad. He just look bewildered the whole time. Thankfully we just laugh about it now, over four years later.
Just yesterday – my husband left for a job interview in Santa Monica (we live in Washington state so he is gone until late tonight), and me – being 7 months pregnant and never having been apart from him overnight since I first met him – started BAWLING my eyes out for a good hour, feeling like the most abandoned little thing in the universe.
I caught myself eventually, but as someone who prides herself in her independence and toughness, that was quite the embarrassing night for me. I blame the hormones, of course. 😀
A few years ago I was working second shift at a job I hated, so I only got to hang out with my bf (now husband) on my days off (if he didn’t have any meetings or anything going on). I was REALLY excited when I got a Monday night off that coincided with Music & Movies in the park, a local summer series, and one of my fave bands was playing. We packed a picnic dinner, including wine in a Nalgene. I guess my bf was afraid he was hoarding the wine, so he kept passing it to me and I ended up drinking almost all of it. By the time the band’s set was over, I was just a little drunk. Then, it started raining. It was light rain, but super dark, scary clouds started coming in so my bf suggested we leave. I started BAWLING and going on and on about how my perfect date was ruined…I kept crying in the car. He decided to take me to a wine bar to make up for it, but we got to the wine bar and it was closed…which made me cry again. Eventually I calmed down (errr sobered up) and realized how stupid I was for being so upset about RAIN.
At 8 months pregnant we were on our way to the doctor for a stress test. My husband chose that time to tell me that his mother had complained that I hadn’t put the clothes she bought for the baby in the closet yesterday…I threw a super sized iced tea in his lap. He had to go in the appointment with wet pants. Seven years later we’re still going strong. I just buy smaller beverages. I just Sartre reading your blog this week and I love it. Thanks for sharing your stories and tips!