Goo goo ga ga
1. I just remembered I can drink kombucha again!
Come here, you fizzy bottle of love.
2. Tom is the diaper king.. and I still kind of fail at it. Tom changes most of the diapers when he’s home, but when it’s just me, I’m just not as talented. Let’s just say when she had a legendary blowout last night, I was the accomplice to the crime. I just don’t want it to be too tight on her little legs!
3. We survived our first outing, in public (aka not at friends’ or family’s house) that lasted more than an hour and a half. Usually I’ll feed her, we’ll get where we need to go, and be back home in time to feed her again. Today, we walked around La Encantada with my friend Marisa for about an hour, and when she suggested dinner at Blanco, Liv and I decided that it was a good idea. When she woke up, I fed her at the table with an Aden + Anais swaddle draped over us whilst chatting, eating guacamole and tacos. I didn’t flash anyone –I’m pretty modest so feeding her in public was something I wasn’t quite sure I’d be comfortable doing- and she was happy as a clam the entire time. Win.
4. Babies are people.. they’re just smaller. No need to “goo goo ga ga” all up in their face. I’m talking to you, crazy lady in the diaper aisle at Target.
5. Thank you for all of your stories, tips and words of encouragement regarding breastfeeding. I’m very thankful and lucky to know so many amazing resources.
6. Mattress mambo post-delivery. Discuss. Haha.
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Ummm….best comment thread ever! I’m due in August with my 1st and have LOVED reading what everyone has to say about the whole post-delivery mattress-mambo thing! Yikes! Sooo scary! I had no idea that breastfeeding makes you dry up like the grand canyon! Learn something every day, I guess! : ) Good luck with that one!!! I would say to let us know how it goes??? haha, but that sounds too creeper/weird!
I really don’t like baby talk and the overly exaggerated tones many adults use to speak to children. Babies are learning sounds, which form the basis of speech, from us. I’m not saying you need to read Crime and Punishment to kiddos, but you might as well talk to them in a normal voice and use real words, if only for the benefit of the other adults around 🙂
AMAZING post and comments thread thank you!!! 8 months preg and needed this discussion! Never TMI!
Mattress mambo post delivery occured at 6 weeks PP for us….. with a LOT LOT LOT LOT LOT of Astroglide. LOT of Astroglide. 😀 Hahahah. I tore during delivery and even 15 weeks PP it doesn’t seem completely back to normal, so the Astroglide prevents it from re-tearing.
Everyone’s experience is different! I think we waited 6 weeks and yes, it hurt some, but after one or two times, it felt pretty much back to normal (and I had a tear during delivery). If you are nervous and tense, it will hurt more, just like when you are having contractions in labor. Go slow and use Astroglide like others said, and maybe have the Pilot, um, loosen you up a little before the main event, if you get my drift. This was advice given to me for my wedding night since it was my first time and it made it not hurt at all. What has been hard for me is that since I’m still bfing my son at 19 months and am pregnant with #2, I’ve had zero desire for mattress mambo since I got preg with the first. Maybe after I’m done having kids it will come back!
It’s painful. Go very slow and lube lube lube. It gets better though!
Thanks for this post! Love reading the comments.
Like a previous commenter, since I am expecting twins, I have some restrictions from the doc for no mambo-ing for the time being. I’ve got about 10 weeks to go, so it’s going to be quite a stretch of time before we are back in action.
So glad for the comment section! I am due in 4 days (!!!!) and haven’t felt like mamboing for pretty much the last part of pregnancy but was hoping after delivery we could start it up again….but I was also nervous about how it would feel. So glad to read so much good advice!
I had a 3rd degree tear and sadly at 3.5 months PP there is still no mattress mambo going on. 🙁 I was worried that this was abnormal but it sounds like it isn’t, so that is making me feel a little better.
HORROR STORY! A lady touched my baby allll over in January when he was born. AND SHE HAD TISSUES IN HER HAND. Could have killed her
omg. i would have punched her
These comments are scaring me!! I am several years away from having children and all I can think is… yikes!! For some reason I can’t stop reading, though…!
Sex post-delivery was…interesting. We waited 5 1/2 weeks and it was all I could do to wait that long. Meanwhile, my husband was PETRIFIED and it took a few times for things to get back to their usual…vigor. TMI!!! I sadly had an emergency c-section so it was more painful in my abdomen than if I would have had a perineal tear, so that’s probably different than your experience. I spotted and cramped after the big O for the first 3 months, which I didn’t expect but makes total sense. I suppose it is what you make it. Our daughter is 4 months old now and our mambo time, or ANY time alone, means so much more now than before we had her, and I am happily surprised that it happens more often than before baby! It gets better, lol!
Oh, and lube is my new best friend. Hahahahaha.
I’m a speech pathologist and just wanted to let you know the “goo goo ga ga” speak is actually called “mother-eese” and is good for babies. It helps them hear the sounds that they should eventually develop and use themselves (phonemes). Using baby talk with babies is very much encouraged in my field! It might be annoying but it helps language development as babies tend to try to mimic what they hear.
What Liza said is absolutely correct. I am not a speech pathologist but I do consider myself a bit of an expert at raising children since I very successfully raised four daughters who are extremely verbal, scored well-outside of the “average” range on standardized tests for language comprehension, and have a fantastic ability to communicate.(An actor who does commercials and tour guide at Universal Studios, a fashion photographer who is being featured in many magazines at the young age of 22 while running her own business, a college student who holds down two jobs, one at J Crew and another at a jewelry store, and a high school senior who has been the captain of her dance team for several years and who also instructs classes for 5-12 year old dance students) Babies are NOT just small people as you stated. “Mother-eese” is something that we do because it is actually a more natural way to communicate with babies who do not yet understand the meaning behind all of the words that we spew at them on a daily basis. Sing-song intonations actually help babies and toddlers to better understand language at a much earlier age. Think about telling your baby how wonderful he/she is in an adult, slightly monotone voice with no higher pitches or goo-goo-ga-ga’s mixed in. No reaction but a mildly blank stare. Try it again, only this time in a sing-song(what you call “goo-goo-ga-ga”) tone. You probably got some smiles, maybe a tiny hand stroking your cheek, and, if you are lucky, an entranced baby who is totally enamored with mommy:) The very best!
People may act a little “crazy” when they speak to your baby out in public but that is because it is something that is actually instinctual and quite natural. It might look “crazy” to you as an adult, but I assure you that your baby is loving it! Please do not treat your baby as if he/she is a small person. Honestly, there is nothing further from the truth. Babies are babies for such a short amount of time. Using “goo-goo-ga-ga” tones with them is a nurturing and loving way to teach them how to comprehend and communicate in a way that they can tune in to and mimic. No matter how strange it might feel for you, embrace the mother-eese!!! Your little angel will love you for it and you might actually discover that it is a really sweet and fun way to communicate with your child:)
my son will be 4 months old in 10 days and sex 8 weeks after having him was so painful! Even last week he made me bleed and he was being gentle! I didn’t tear too much like i did with my daughter but for some reason it’s still painful to me 🙁 Good luck! Oh,and lube will be your best friend for the first few times 😉
oh and about the baby talk , i didn’t do it with my daughter but my son actually does make the agoo sounds and when i speak to him he looks at my mouth and he mimics a couple of sounds that i make so it might help. not all the time of course but when she starts cooing and trying to “talk” to u
Your so lucky Tom is good changing diapers!! My hubby is still working on it and our daughter is 4.5 months!! Oh and mattress mambo is still tough here 🙁 but everyone is different! Good luck 😀
Totally a personal call, but careful with the kombucha and the breast feeding- a good friend LOVES it, but it caused some crazy poop in her baby and a little bit of a bad reaction because of the alcohol in it (really low, but still there), but again, totally a personal call, just a heads up!
Lots of lube and it is uncomfortable. My suggestion is for you to “be in control” of things so there isn’t to much pressure (physically) on you.;)
I just wanted to say i read this and thought there wasn’t really anything wrong with your original post – i got what you are saying. I hope the internets didn’t upset you.