Goo goo ga ga
1. I just remembered I can drink kombucha again!
Come here, you fizzy bottle of love.
2. Tom is the diaper king.. and I still kind of fail at it. Tom changes most of the diapers when he’s home, but when it’s just me, I’m just not as talented. Let’s just say when she had a legendary blowout last night, I was the accomplice to the crime. I just don’t want it to be too tight on her little legs!
3. We survived our first outing, in public (aka not at friends’ or family’s house) that lasted more than an hour and a half. Usually I’ll feed her, we’ll get where we need to go, and be back home in time to feed her again. Today, we walked around La Encantada with my friend Marisa for about an hour, and when she suggested dinner at Blanco, Liv and I decided that it was a good idea. When she woke up, I fed her at the table with an Aden + Anais swaddle draped over us whilst chatting, eating guacamole and tacos. I didn’t flash anyone –I’m pretty modest so feeding her in public was something I wasn’t quite sure I’d be comfortable doing- and she was happy as a clam the entire time. Win.
4. Babies are people.. they’re just smaller. No need to “goo goo ga ga” all up in their face. I’m talking to you, crazy lady in the diaper aisle at Target.
5. Thank you for all of your stories, tips and words of encouragement regarding breastfeeding. I’m very thankful and lucky to know so many amazing resources.
6. Mattress mambo post-delivery. Discuss. Haha.
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Did you not drink any during pregnancy? I read it was safe? Let me know if you think otherwise!
Erm yeah, what’s wrong with kombucha when you are pregnant?
It’s one of those things I wasn’t sure of (there’s a teeny bit of alcohol and it’s fermented) so I skipped it
Oh I see 🙂
I thought for a second you were going to say it was super dangerous and just bring my whole world down! Kombucha is probably my biggest pregnancy craving… 😉
Actually, with GT’s Kombucha, if it says “enlightened” on the label (and I see yours does) and does not have a black wrapper on the cap (yours is gray), there is no alcohol in it. They changed the formula when people freaked out because of the tiny amount of alcohol. They still offer the alcoholic kinds, but they do not say “enlightened” and have a black cap wrapper. The alcoholic versions are much harder to find – a lot of places dont stock them. Things I learned from my awesome local health store (which stocks both kinds)! 🙂
If you happen to see a women staring at you while you bf, don’t be offended; she might just be admiring. lol. I love seeing mamas bf, in a not creepy way. And mattress mambo! A must. Time, sleep, and relaxation is so limited at this stage, a little sex helps you two stay connected and relieve some stress!
Well. I had an pretty bad episiotomy…and…
It made our sex life better. Seriously. For that I’m forever grateful since I’d heard horror stories about the residual effects of tearing and episiotomies. I don’t know how it happened, but, there you go.
Also, wine helps.
yes, my doctor did suggest wine for me too! and it does help 🙂
I don’t know how mothers are able to brestfeed in public and not flash anybody. My cousin was just here and she has a 3 month old and she was walking all around the house with my 3 brothers and my dad and in the middle of the room she would all of a sudden have her boob out and she would be nursing. I don’t know how it is done. I guess when I become a mother I will know
They make great breast feeding “capes”. I put it on and you can’t see anything…. However once Tator tot is older they are fond of ripping it off….
Hooter Hiders (that’s a brand name; I’m sure other brands make the same thing). They go around your neck, have a wire to hold them away from your body so they don’t smother the baby, and they cover everything from your shoulders to lap.
i had the same problem with diapers blowing out until the cord fell off and we could start using cloth. after that, it was great!
i was always SO nervous to nurse in public so i’d either go to the car or find the nursing rooms at the mall. those things were lifesavers. i think you are awesome for pulling it off!
i’ve commented about the mattress mambo on here before: go slow, LOTS of lube, and lots of patience. and i seriously mean lots of lube. it didn’t stop hurting for me until i stopped nursing around a year. but my husband was super understanding as i’m sure the pilot will be. good luck 😉 {oh, and of course everyone’s different so you may have no problems at all}
oh britt, glad I’m not alone. I had a medium episiotomy and a year later, still have pain (though not as bad). maybe practice would make perfect, but who wants to practice when it hurts? also I know when I quit nursing soon, that will probably help.
LOTS of women apparently have no prob, Gina, so hopefully you’ll be like them and not us! astroglide is your friend though (not KY)
i only had a slight internal tear but it felt awful! i felt so alone at the time and had no one to talk to about it and very few people are this open on their blogs. thanks, gina 🙂
Sorry to butt in…why not KY? Ive been having all of these problems too but have been using KY. I sit juts not as good or?
danielle,
I think astroglide is silicone based or otherwise differently formulated than KY. though sex was still hard after we switched to astroglide, it was at least possible. it really made a world of difference.
My midwife said no fancy KY ’cause all the stuff in it might irritate the area more than it already is.. she suggested just the plain stuff. Astroglide is plain as it gets… just don’t rub it all over your thigh. It gets all filmy a few hours later. Yep..
Thank you! Makes sense!
haha! this totally made me lol. i never tried astroglide but really wish i would have. i’ll know next time 😉
Haha I’d be happy to discuss mattress mambo post-pregnancy. Not as scary as you think 😉 Lube and wine help haha.
And yay for surviving your first outing!! That’s quite an accomplishment 🙂
omg. mattress mambo four+ months out still hasn’t happened. we’ve tried. oh how we’ve tried. 1/2 a bottle of lube and greasier than most taco factories, and it’s still a no go.
maybe tmi, but i just wanted to put it out there. USE LOTS OF LUBE. breastfeeding can make you super dry.
lmao @ “greasier than most taco factories” sooo true!
Haha, my OB just said don’t expect it to be “all yahoo” the first time, especially I’d you had any tearing. I haven’t gone down that road yet.
Aren’t blow outs fun?
I had a bad episiotomy and internal tear and when I was given the All Systems are go signal to resume “relations” I was worried it would hurt. So we added a date night out, a bottle of wine, and I took the lead on top to have the most control over the first time… and it was FINE, more than fine. Like a previous poster, our sex life was WAY better after I healed up. Leaky boobies and all. 🙂
This made me laugh!!! A little tmi but the way you put it was so funny!
LOL, glad it made someone laugh and admittedly it made me laugh after it happened, but WHOA it was a shocker at the time.
haha! so funny but that is one thing my hubby asked me the other day…if my boobs would leak on him on anything weird like that when we mess around, bc i’m planning to breastfeed. i’m pregnant currently – so we have a lot of unknowns out there still! 🙂
Mattress mambo was not fun… It took a long time. 🙁
I can’t stand toooo much goo goo gaga either with my four month old but friends who study child development have told me that those sounds actually help infants learn about communication so some funny noises re actually a good thing!:)
In the classes I took they said it helps a baby learn about communication when you repeat their coos and noises back to them. I do that with my daughter and the children I’ve nannied but only when they are experimenting with their voices. Besides that I talk to them normal.
I agree with you both, but a random stranger just squatting down and telling a baby that is so weird! HA! My degree is in Speech-Language Pathology and yes, babies learn from the sounds they hear when others speak to them or around them. And playing with the baby with cute baby sounds is helpful, but the random woman was just creepy.
Haha I agree with all the ladies above! Breastfeeding definitely makes things not as moist so lube is a definite must. I had a small tear and that area is still super sensitive as expected so going slow and lots of warming things up help if ya know what I mean 😉
The mambo was not fun for me either. I was dry as a bone. There wasn’t enough lube in the bottle, LOL! It just took a while to make it fun again… lube and patience is what you need!
Breastfeeding in public is not nearly as difficult as one would think….once you get the hang of it. Personally I loved it because I didn’t have to worry about toting around bottles. I will say with my first I was more modest about it; tried to find the darkest corner furthest away from people. Over time you become more comfortable with it then as they grow older new challenges arise such as keeping them covered. My son HATED being covered so I got to the point I was not afraid to nurse un-covered in public. I’m sorry, but they are just boobs and if folks don’t want to see them they need to look the other direction. 😉
As for mattress mambo…. Aloe Cadabra! { http://aloecadabra.com/ } LIFE SAVER for those who’ve had children or experience dryness. At the time I was running a give away blog, so I got some to try for free. This stuff last for quite a while and is noticeably different from the other lubes on the market. I cannot say enough good stuff about it… and it’s made with 95% organic aloe!
Thanks for the recommendation! I’m pregnant & already worrying about the after effects, so I am about to place an order w/Aloe Cadabra right now. Using petrolium products in my girl areas seems super bad news to me, so this it is such relief to see that there is a natural option out there.
Oh… and regarding crazy lady in the Target aisle. People LOVE to be all over the baby. I have had a complete stranger in a store literally try to grab my son from my arms when he was 3 months old. A COMPLETE STRANGER. I was just like “Uhh… he gets upset with strangers, so I am going to hang on to him!” She actually told me she was just going to take him from me so she could kiss him! Ummm… one small detail… I DON’T KNOW YOU!!!
Your crazy lady was lucky. I would have knocked anyone down who tried grabbing my baby out of my arms.
My friend had her baby taken from the shopping cart. The man thought the baby was beautiful and wanted to give it to his wife!!!!!! Scary thing, he had no clue why that was not okay.
OMG!
As in he wanted to TAKE the baby TAKE the baby or just show the baby to his wife? Well, either way, super creepo and crazy. I’d karate chop his ass!
#6 is my fav ha!
Ditto to lots of lube, very dry while breastfeeding. Good for you for BFing in public! If more women do it, it will be less of a shock to people. I have never seen another mom BFing in public so I still feel a little shy about it, but my baby has to eat somehow, and I refuse to go somewhere yucky, like a bathroom to do it.
The mambo took a long time. All of my friends recommended wine, but I’m not a fan. Husband was very patient. Just try easing into things and yeah, like others have said, you’ll probably want to purchase some lube.
Heather – looks like you and CD figured it out, LOL!
We never had a problem resuming the mattress mambo post birth nor have we had a need for lube while breastfeeding. Yay! for nursing in public it gets easier to do over time. I used a cover the first few times I nursed in public with our oldest 11.5 years ago. Since then though I’ve been more than covered with tank tops and a regular shirt.
same here- my desire was more the problem 🙂
There is a log
Lately i have heard many talk about kombucha! I think I am going to have to try it! Have you ever thought about making it at home?
yes, we made it at raw foods school but i haven’t done it at home!
3 words: Silicone. Based. Lube.
Loving these comments 🙂
I can’t wait to drink Kombucha again!!!!!
And not just any lube….Astroglide.
mattress mambo.. Well do you remember your first bowl movement post pregnancy? Times that by 10.. Ouchie mama.. I actually think I cried.. But then again.. I had twins.. and there was no mattress mambo 7 months prior to delivery (high risk thing) It was a bit tight down there..
Lube, and go slow.
I kind of love this post. That’s all. It just completely fascinates me, as someone who isn’t near ready to have a baby. And i love the term “matress mambo” I have never heard that before. ha ha!
I love it too, Laura!! I don’t have kids either, and won’t for awhile. It’s super fascinating to read these comments too! And I’m also new to the “mattress mambo” term!! TOO FUNNY!!! 🙂
can you please do a post on pooping during and after delivery. this is extremely fascinating to me.
omg….never having kids.
Please DON’T do a post on pooping during and after delivery…I’ve had three kids and still don’t think its something that needs a full blog post. Suffice it to say that everyone’s experience is different, but if there is a tear during delivery the first bowel movement will probably be painful.
Haha I draw the line at that one
hahahaha whole new level
After delivery = OW!!!!!
These comments have me cracking up – as a single lady, I’m not planning on finding out about post-delivery mattress mambo for a loooong time but definitely making mental notes for the future haha. I love that there is no such thing as TMI here, just everyone keeping it real!
These comments have made my night and I’m a) not a mom and b) far from it. Haha! Love you guys!
Hahaha seriously, someone asked about pooping?! I love that this blog is never too much TMI – it makes my day! Keep it real 🙂 and good luck with the mattress mambo!
Sex is way better when your period comes back. Pregnancy and post partum/breastfeeding made my body and mind on sexual lockdown – it knew it was devoted to the health and well being of the baby and not on making another one! Once I started ovulating again, the baby making mojo kicked back on again. I’m not complaining!
The comments have been great entertainment. Thanks! 😆
this is my favorite comment thread EVER haha. I’m so glad to read all this stuff though – due in June and my poor husband comes home from deployment when I’m 36 weeks! When did you guys have to put the mattress mambo on hold pre-delivery? I feel so bad that he’s gone for 6 months and then comes home to a wife that probably won’t want anything to do with sex for a few more months. 🙁
haha, you can do it until your blue in the face pre-delivery! You’ll be in the mood too…hormones plus being willing to try anything to get that baby out! 36 weeks gives him a good 4 weeks before it’s no sex time! 😉
Agreed– hormones pre delivery were out of this world and made my husband quite the happy man. Post delivery is another ball game, much to his dismay. It didn’t hurt, but I didn’t tear, so had little to none recovery time. Im waiting to ovulate again and hope the hormones pick back up!
Oh you’re good to go until the day of unless your doc says otherwise
So so glad your hubby will be home soon!
Me too!! Thanks ladies – makes me feel better (and him too I’m sure….I sent this post to him to read haha)
I’m scared thinking about the whole post birth sex life thing. We only started contemplating a baby a few months ago and I know my husband was rocked by the idea of no sex for 6 weeks postpartum…. :-/
Your #4…also tying in with that is when pregnant, the stomach of the pregnant woman belongs to the pregnant woman. No need for perfect strangers to run up to her and pet, rub, touch, or invade the woman’s space and stomach!
Glad you all survived your first big outing!
Awesome comment thread. So glad I read them all out of curiosity. Lots of good info for the future.
I must be one of the crazy ones because my guy LOVES when you Goo Goo Ga Ga at him. He giggles at pretty much any “G” sound.
Kids do love that! But there is a difference between making those noises to make your baby laugh or to actually really talking to them in baby language… I prefer the first 😉
I enjoyed this post as well! Someone commented on admiring a BF mama & I agree, I’m nowhere near ready for a little one but seeing that just fascinates me…in a good/non creepy way 🙂 Thoroughly enjoyed all the comments on “post-delivery mattress mambo”. I have no advice but good luck!!
I was so scared to have sex after my baby! It wasn’t that bad but I basically had to put it on my “to do” list. I kept avoiding it and my husband is so polite, he wasn’t demanding. It still isn’t great yet but I know it’ll get better. At least, the idea of it doesn’t scare me anymore!
I think a poop post would be fun too! 🙂 Or maybe that would scare the non-moms too much. 😛
These family posts scare the daylights out of me, yet excite and fascinate me all at the same time. I love them!! It’s awesome to know real stories and not just info from a book or something.
Not to mention the entertainment factor!
This comment thread is the best. And I don’t have kids. What does this say about me?!
Love your point about how babies are people, just smaller. I HATE baby talk!
I rarely read all comments on posts, but this one was way too hilarious to pass up. Oh. My. Gosh. I am dying over here. Can’t say I can give any advice, but I’d be nervous too!!!!
For me it was horrible but I had it all goung on down ther TMI -hemmroids, stitches, burning when I peed it took me months before it was “good”! But again this was me! 🙂
Just wondering if you have been using cloth diapers? I tried from birth with my second and was totally overwhelmed with everything else going on. I decided something had to give and that was it. But, we came back to it a few months later when the dust settled and I realized it was no big deal. We’ve been happily doing it since! As for the mattress mambo, I will echo that breast feeding made it tough. It was a no-go without a little assistance.
For me, breastfeeding in public was like riding a bike. Once I got the hang of it, it was like second nature. And I flashed no one. I even used to BF in the mall just sitting on a bench like it was second nature. I only wish it was still as easy (and cheap) to feed my kids at the mall. (They are 6 and 2.) 🙂
First things first: Mattress mambo post delivery = painful. Not to scare you but I’ve been through it twive and both times were not peachy. We waited 8 weeks with both of them thinking that would be enough time and it just wasn’t. I didn’t have bad labors and I didn’t tear at all with my second and only slightly with my first so I don’t think that had anything to do with it. It was just really still healing, we’re waiting longer this time. Everybody’s different though. Ok next thing…..baby talk drives me insane!!!! We never talked to babies/kids that way in my family and nobody ever had a problem with speech. My husband’s parents were hard core baby talkers and it drove me absolutely crazy with my first! It was so bad that we actually had to say something to them about it. The interesting thing, they have 3 boys and every one of them had speech delays and problems saying their ‘r’ sounds. I really think the baby talk had a lot to do with it!
I had to wait the 6 weeks after for healing and to get my IUD. But after that time I was ready to go….I think I was more excited about it then my husband even was. I would have done it before the 6 weeks but I didnt because I didnt want to risk another pregnancy so soon after. Sex is like riding a bike : Just get on top and ride
I’ve never had kids but I am LOVING this discussion going on!! hahaha
I don’t recall having a problem, but I can’t remember how long we waited to reintroduce the mattress mambo; that was 4.5 years ago and I have a hard time remembering what I did yesterday! Anyway, maybe look into Tantric? Kind of ease back into the whole act slowly and maybe learn some new tricks along the way? I’ve never done it, but it seems to work for Sting and his wife – lol!
1. I still drank booch during pregnancy in small doses. I read as long as you did it regularly before pregnancy it was fine. I can understand though with the alcohol staying awa! It must be nice and refreshing after 10 months! Have you tried the mango coconut kefir? I’m addicted to that more now!
2. When Michael changes Ella’s diaper one of her entire butt cheeks hangs out. You’re lucky.
3. Yey to the first outing! I think we tool our around the same time. It was such a success…because she slept! Ha! [mall walking]
4. Luckily that hasn’t happened to us
6. you know about this one :/