Hey guys! How’s your day going?? Hope you’re having a good morning <3
(That’s Jeni’s dog Whiskey- he’s so sweet and cute. Bella’s body is the size of his head, haha)
I had a glorious movie and dinner night with the girls 
We ate at Longhorn, which used to be a weekly dinner spot before I moved to Orlando.
Bread, vino
iceberg lettuce salad (no croutons or cheese, oil and vinegar dressing)
10 oz grilled salmon with double veggies
The salmon is always PERFECT at Longhorn. Buttery, flaky, grilled to glory. Lurve.
Dinner came with a lovely side of girl chat
followed by Love and Other Drugs. I fully enjoyed the Jake Gyllenhaal eye candy and Anne Hathaway is amazing, but the story line was kinda meh. It also made me think of the Pilot a LOT. You know in the Twilight books (can’t remember which one- the second?) when Bella just wants to see horror and zombie movies because everything else reminds her of Edward? That kinda thing 
I was trying to figure out why I didn’t have more pics on my cam from last night, but remembered that I don’t usually take a lot of pictures when I’m with friends. A girl whom I used to be really good friends with once said to me: I hate being on your blog- don’t post pictures of me anymore. Ever since then, I’ve either not posted pics of other people when I’m with them (the Pilot, puppies and fellow bloggers are fair game, haha), or I ask if they don’t mind appearing on the bloggy.
Do think it’s ok to post pictures of friends on your blog? Do you ask first? What do you think about posting pictures of your kids online? (If you don’t have a blog, I’d still love to hear your two pesos)
I try to maintain my friend’s privacy by asking them, even though I myself wouldn’t mind showing up on a friends blog. As far as the kids thing goes, the Pilot and I agreed that when the time comes, I’ll just post occasional pics but not an everyday kinda thing and keep the blog food and fitness-focused. As much as it would be nice to believe that everyone in Cyberland has good intentions, it isn’t the case – putting out whole family out there like that would worry me.
Well I’m going to hit up the gym for legs, pick up Viesa and get on the road back to Orlando! Fast and furious little trip
Have a great day and I’ll see ya laterrrrrrr <3
xoxo
Gina
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I was skeptical at first, but now my family and friends BEG me to post things about them on my blog!! If it’s someone not so close, I definitely ask.
I definitely think everyone should ask permission before posing a picture of someone else on their blog. Some people are very private, others let everything out, and many more fall somewhere in the middle. It’s just good manners, in my opinion.
Those who are prolific online via blogs or any other social networking site oftentimes don’t see the bad in posting pics of their friends. But I’m that friend who is extremely adverse to being put online without prior consent. I find it highly inconsiderate not to be asked first. Some of us have reason to stay private and it’s not up to someone else to determine how private we are or aren’t. Putting up a photo seems innocent, but its ramifications can be significant (think stalkers, professional career imagess needing protection, etc).
Thanks for asking this question. It’s important, as you bloggers have more power than you may realize.
My blog isn’t heavily trafficked so I don’t feel bad posting pictures of my friends. I don’t do it that often and I choose flattering pics of course. I also don’t use last names, and regular characters on my blog (primarily my fiance) get a nickname- he used to be my dear boyfriend and now he’s my darling fiance. I’m thinking after we get married and he finishes med school I’ll promote him to Dr. Hubby.
I can’t wait to see that movie!
That’s definitely a tricky place…I usually only post photos of blog meetups or myself being slightly goofy just to avoid any issues with privacy, being upset, etc…A few shots with old roomies have been posted but after they gave the go-ahead.
Yeah, when I’m with my fam I don’t take a lot of pictures but the hubs and dog are fair game to me too. Any sports events that happen to include friends and family are also fair game. If I’m taking a pic of someone for the first time, I ask them if it is okay that they are on my blog, and I’ve never had anyone tell me no. I think it is still polite to ask though.
I think it also depends on my mood. Sometimes, I just want my family time to be mine and I don’t want to share it with the world. Sometimes, I want to show off my family time.
I reallly want to see that movie! Looks so good and Jake Gyllenhaal is ridiculously easy on the eyes
If I had a blog I would definitely ask permission before posting pics of friends or family. It’s funny though, people seem to have no problem having their pictures and every detail of their lives posted all over facebook, yet have an issue with a few pictures on a blog…maybe b/c facebook comes with privacy settings?
I don’t ask family members for the most part, but they don’t really care anyway (and they all know I blog). Otherwise, it just depends. If it’s also a facebook pic I figure it’s fair game since it’s already public floating around online. But if I knew someone cared obviously I wouldn’t do it. So far I haven’t had a problem. But I do make sure to try and only post flattering pics of people, especially close ups (like for my Thanksgiving post I posted a few random pics where my Dad and brother are half in them, not looking at the cam, etc. but the main focus of those pics are the table setting/food). I post my cousin’s baby all the time. I’ve never officially asked her I don’t think, but she knows and she’s proud of it. I’m more cautious of protecting my last name & stuff like that than pics. But I also don’t think I’m overly cautious (ex. I post local restaurants I frequent, etc). Idk, I think it’s nice to ask people, of course, but and probably something you should do, but in this day and age (and with digital cameras especially) it seems like if you take a photo most people are prepared for it to appear online in some shape or form. *shrug*
I used to post more pics of my friends but realized that they may not want to be on my blog, even tho no one said anything, I just figured that it wasn’t necessary to post their pics.
I have never posted a single picture of my hubs. Ever. On my blog.
I have posted plenty of pics of Skylar and used to post more in the past, but got scared b/c not everyone has good intentions out there. Sad but true. I am far more selective with what I post and also quantity. A few snapshots per week, but not a daily thing.
Some blogs have daily or nearly daily pictures of their kids but it worries me so i don’t. I think your game plan going forward w/ your kids is a good one…some but not overdone and keep the focus on other stuff. I figure readers like to know about my kid, but they don’t need 17 pics a day of her, either, type thing
Great topic, Gina!!
First, girl chat is my very favorite side dish ever.
Secondly, I’ve never really thought that much about it, but I’ve posted pics of my friends and family on my blog occasionally — never asked them for permission. I assume this is because it didn’t really occurr to me that someone might NOT want to have his or her picture on it.
I also usually send them a link to the post they’re in…they always appreciate it, and are generally happy to be part of the blog.
Honestly, I think I’m just terribly naive, and didn’t consider the possibility that someone could see it as unsafe.
It’s the second twilight book, New Moon
and I hear you loud and clear. I can’t watch love movies while the fiance is deployed…it’s just too hard.
Yeah I am not sure if other people are ok with being on the blog- so I usually post family and myself!
I will def be using my future kids to attract more readers. Cuteness draws them in
I ALWAYS ask permission! Better to be respectful.
And I only post pictures of friend family that I believe are flattering – just like with facebook.
And if someone says they don’t want a picture up or to take a picture down because they don’t like the way they look, I respect that 100% and I don’t put it up or I take it down, because I know that’s what I would want people to do for me.
I LOVE being on your blog. Post away…and tell that girl she is nuts.
xoxo
haha we need to hang out more then!
I’ve been considering seeing that movie in theaters, maybe I’ll wait to rent it now. Thanks.
Sounds like a fun night, I haven’t done a girls night in ages.
To me, it’s okay to post pics of friends as long as you have their permission. As for kids, that’s the parents call. But I wouldn’t post pics of anyone’s kids on my blog.
Pics of other people are tricky. I don’t have a blog, but like most people, I have a fb and I try to be respectful if someone doesn’t want a picture posted.
I used to be mega liberal and thought “who would care?”, But a couple years ago, a (now ex) boyfriend posted a few pictures of me (without my consent) on some silly message board to basically brag about me to some of his fantasy football buddies, who didn’t know me. While it was rooted in good intentions and most of the guys were complementary with their comments, some of the guys said some gross things about whether or not they would, ahem “do” certain things with me and one guy even said something really mean about my nose! Until then I’d never even considered there being something wrong with my nose!I felt upset because I hadn’t asked for my attractiveness to be evaluated, yet somehow all these strange men were doing just that on the internet!
So long story short, I think people should at least be aware of their internet presence, but also politely let a friend know if they feel uncomfortable about something being posted.
I always ask before I post pictures of friends on my blog. If they are okay with it, then I send them a link to the post when I publish it and ask them to look over it to make sure they are okay with the pictures I posted and what I said.
I read some blogs that are impersonal, focusing on how-to or fashion and whatnots, but I think for my personal blog it’s best for me to post pictures. I think that’s what is interesting about blogs – the inside look at someone’s life and that personal connection.
my friends love seeing photos of them up on my blog. I think the reason for that is, they feel good being recognized as someone I love enough to share with the blog world. I usually ask first, but most of the time the answer is a definite YES!
I always ask first if someone minds being on the blog, and the only person who has ever said no was my fiance (the person I spend the most time with and take tons of photos with!) – my BFF likes being on the blog and my nieces & nephews think it’s cool to see our family online
I used to post pictures of my friends before they ever knew about the blog, but now my close friends figure that they’ll be on it. They’ll even ask me “Are you going to post this and make me famous?” lmho! My mom, on the other hand, doesnt like to be on it so I’ll always ask my parents for permission to put them up.
I rarely post pictures of my friends on my blog, but when I do I ask permission. Their privacy definitely deserves to be respected.
I always ask permission if I want to post a pic of someone on the blog…even if it’s my parents! As for kids, no way. I don’t put them on the blog (at least where their faces are visible)or mention their names for safety purposes. Too many creepers out there
Hi Gina! I’m not a blogger but since you asked for our opinions as well, I shall answer!
I think it’s courteous to ask the person before snapping the picture and putting them on the blog. Like others have said, some people are very private/paranoid/self-conscious! It just shows respect +love and care.
As for babies/kids.. I personally don’t care for them when other bloggers do it. Maybe it’s the age gap (I’m 19) but I think those pictures get old pretty quickly! I’d also be afraid to do so myself If I ever had kids. Never trust the internet!
I always ask my friends if they mind, lucky for me they LOVE being on the blog
If and when I have kids, I will probably do the once in a blue moon kid shot…I agree with you on the topic of creepy random internet nutjobs! eeep!
Whatever, I definitely think it’s fine to post pictures of people on blogs, within reason. I don’t have a blog, but do of course use Facebook. One person I used to be good friends with insinuated that the picture I put of her made her look “heavy” (I thought she looked great). It makes me uncomfortable when people are so self conscious they need to have any picture removed.
Hi Gina!
Whiskey is ADORABLE!! I love when you post puppy pics! I want to see that movie, but my bf is also off flying around for 6 more months, so I imagine it might be a downer for me
I don’t really have a blog, but I think you should definitely ask for permission before posting a pic of someone. As for the kid thing, I like your view of it…this is a blog about your life, and kids will obviously BE in your life, so I think occasional pics are perfectly fine.
Also, I personally think you have a good balance of letting bloggies get a good picture of your life, but I definitely don’t think you go overboard. If this was just a blog strictly about fitness/fashion/nutrition tips with no “Gina shenanigans” I doubt you’d have anywhere near as many readers. The reason you’re so loved and followed is BECAUSE you share that lovely personal side of your life.
I remember once a (real life) friend of yours posted a comment to one of your posts saying something like you blog about a fraction of your life, and that there was so much more you keep private. I don’t doubt that at all, and I think that as long as YOU (and pilot!) are comfortable with it, that’s all that matters. Ok, I may have gone off on a tangent, but I just wanted to give you my 2cents based on other comments I read