Awkward Pregnancy Moments- II

Having a gluten-free bun in the oven sets me up for a ridiculous amount of awkward moments, but of course, I try to find humor in all of them 🙂 I’ve already posted about a few, but with the way this is going, it will most likely become a regular series 😉

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1.) Getting hit on.

I was walking from the parking lot to the mall entrance, when I heard a truck full of dudes behind me whistling and yelling. I turned around to see who these jokers were and give them the stink eye, but the best was when they were greeted by my protruding belly, in full force after breakfast and dressed in a tight tank top. They were silent and drove away. It was awesome.

The bummer is that my wedding ring set is already too small on my swollen fingers (major huge sad face), so I’m going to buy an inexpensive CZ band just to make it more obvious that I’m married, especially at work when resort guests glance to my ring finger right away after noticing that I’m preggers.

2) “You’re getting so chubby!”

99.97% of friends and family members have been beyond amazing this entire time, with lots of belly rubs, support and encouragement. Needless to say, I was a little surprised when someone came up to say hi, put both hands on my belly and said “Oh my goodness dear, you’re getting so chubby already!”

I’m not chubby, I’m pregnant, you punk.

Awkward.

3) Other people thinking I’m a fragile petunia now.

The first trimester was pretty rough. All I wanted to do was sleep and eat salt and vinegar chips. I managed to work out *almost* like I used to, but a lot of the time I was exhausted and green in the gills. Now that I feel a thousand times better (second trimester is AWESOME), I sometimes have to remind myself that I have a baby growing in there 🙂

It’s funny though, because some people seem to think that I’m incapable of doing things now. So often, I’ve been hearing “you can’t do that. You’re pregnant.” or after teaching Zumba, “are you sure you should be doing that? Is the baby ok?"

I think it’s sweet that others are concerned, but some of the instances have been ridiculous. Even for the upcoming dance show at work, someone said “maybe you can perform again, if you aren’t that pregnant yet.” What does that even mean?!

Of course I have to take it easier now on certain things –no crazy hefty lifting while we move this week- but I’m definitely not a fragile petunia 😉

4) “Those names are wussy!”

When we went to reveal the gender to the fam –they were so thrilled to find out- of course, they wanted to know which baby names we’d picked out. We have a list of faves, about 10, and while I was reading through the list, my dad yelled out “those names are wussy!” and everyone started cracking up.

Awkward! …but he was kidding around and we love him 🙂

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72 Comments

  1. Lily Bird (blogs) on July 24, 2011 at 4:29 pm

    Good for you for dealing with these situations with humor…sometimes big life changes (like pregnancy, marriage, etc.) bring out some strange emotions and even weirder reactions.

    And on the people touching your belly front I cannot even imagine this happening to me- I’m not super ‘touchy feely’ so thinking about strangers touching or commenting on my stomach really freaks me out!

  2. shannonmarie (rawdorable) on July 24, 2011 at 4:30 pm

    You can totally perform in a dance show while preggers. My ballet/pointe teacher (at the time; I haven’t taken either in years) actually performed in our recital while in her final weeks of pregnancy. She looked so cute dancing with that baby in her belly. Gorgeous. I’m sure you could do it, too 🙂

    • Fitnessista on July 24, 2011 at 4:32 pm

      i’m sure i could too! other people doubting it is kind of wah though

      • Running Betty on July 24, 2011 at 6:04 pm

        My husband graduated college while I was pregnant. It was in a huge stadium with lots of stairs to climb. I chose not to go because I was in my LAST TWO WEEKS of my 2nd pregnancy and the thought of climbing all those stairs, having to pee, and “what if I go into labor?” was just too much for me. The VERY end of a pregnancy is quite daunting, but before those last couple of weeks – dance your toes off!

  3. Lindsay on July 24, 2011 at 4:46 pm

    You can do whatever, especially with your fitness background! The day before I delivered, I went for a 3 mile walk, a 1 mile “run”, and lifted weights; just like I had the weeks and months prior. I think it helped with my quick delivery too, or at least in my head 🙂

  4. MMiller on July 24, 2011 at 4:50 pm

    The key is that it is things that you have been doing already, and for a while! It may not be a good idea to start something new like that, but since you were already doing it when you became pregnant, everything should be fine!

  5. Mercy Me on July 24, 2011 at 4:51 pm

    I have to admit I’m older than the vast majority of your readers, but while you’re finding all these awkward moments, others are looking and saying “And there goes another “first pregnancy” woman who thinks she’s the actually the FIRST pregnancy woman!” 😉 You’ll look back and wonder why these things even made a ripple in the fabric of your life! 🙂

  6. J3nn (Jenn's Menu and Lifestyle Blog) on July 24, 2011 at 5:08 pm

    Geesh, awkward indeed! Some people don’t even realize what they are saying is inappropriate, it’s kind of funny sometimes, lol. I’m sure you’ll have a lot more to add to this series knowing how people can be. I think you’re handling it all like a pro!

  7. shaina anderson on July 24, 2011 at 5:11 pm

    I know your dad was just messing with you, but some people can be downright awful when you reveal possible baby names. We have friends that had a baby about 6 months ago, and after seeing coworkers go through awkward moments with baby names, decided not to tell anyone (even parents) until after they named the baby.

    I guess people find it indecent to criticize the name when it already belongs to the baby? As if criticizing possible names is okay haha.

  8. The Healthy Engineer on July 24, 2011 at 5:25 pm

    Oh my god the last one is so funny!

    For some reason I always thought that when pregnant, women were exhausted all the time…I didn’t know it varied from trimester!

    I’m learning a post at a time…even though I have eons to do so 😀

  9. Jessica on July 24, 2011 at 5:32 pm

    That’s a good idea about the CZ ring!

  10. Lindsay Loves Veggies on July 24, 2011 at 5:36 pm

    More belly pics!!! 🙂

  11. Trish on July 24, 2011 at 5:37 pm

    OMG! I can so relate to the getting hit on while pregnant! We went out to a bar for Halloween and I got hit on by 3 different guys-and I was 7 months pregnant and HUGE! It was hilarious indeed.

    Just get use to the ridiculous and totally inappropriate size comments. In one trip to Wal Mart I was told I was “so big” and got the “Are you sure there’s only one in there?” comment, then not 10 minutes later someone else told me how tiny I was for being so far along…what?! Can’t people say “your belly is just beautiful!”? I had a TSA agent at the Atlanta airport tell me I was a beautiful pregnant woman and I could have kissed him 🙂

    And I hate it when people pulled the “Oh, you shouldn’t be doing that because your pregnant” thing. I’m pregnant, not an invalid. Am I suppose to sit at home for the next 9 months doing nothing? Sadly the unwanted comments and “advice” don’t stop after the baby comes either.

  12. Madeline on July 24, 2011 at 5:41 pm

    I definitely got a good laugh out of your awkward pregnancy moments. I just started my third trimester on Friday and I can attest that there are more and more moments to look forward to!

    My good friend who is also pregnant is awesome and keeps reminding me we are only pregnant with our first baby once so just go with it 🙂

    As for the “you can’t do that, you’re pregnant” – I only use that excuse when I am particularly wanting the hubs to do something for me 😉

  13. britt on July 24, 2011 at 5:51 pm

    i think getting hit on was the most awkward pregnancy moment for me. i was a 6 months along and at the pool in a bikini. there was no mistaking i was pregnant. this guy came up and started talking to me and invited me to a club that night. i said “i’m pregnant. and married. ummm, no thanks!”

    i cannot believe the chubby comment. crazy!!

    • Fitnessista on July 25, 2011 at 12:32 am

      ewww! i guess some dudes have the hots for pregnant girls?

  14. Anne on July 24, 2011 at 5:51 pm

    Care to give us the list of ten baby names ?? 😉

    • Fitnessista on July 25, 2011 at 12:31 am

      haha! i think i’m going to keep them on lockdown until we decide 🙂

  15. kaila @ healthy helper! on July 24, 2011 at 5:56 pm

    I love this series!! Its hilarious!! Definitely keep it up!!!

  16. Danielle on July 24, 2011 at 5:58 pm

    My mom had the same reaction with guys whistling at her while she was pregnant with my brother! Their jaws dropped after they saw her HUGELY pregnant belly when she turned around!

    And a family friend continued to run 8 miles a day while pregnant with TWINS up until her due date! Nothing is impossible.
    I thought of this article from Self magazine too:
    http://www.self.com/health/2011/05/running-while-pregnant

  17. Gina @ Running to the Kitchen on July 24, 2011 at 6:03 pm

    people can get so opinionated on names, it’s insane! If we ever have kids that will be the one thing I don’t tell people b/c everyone has something to say on that!

  18. Erica on July 24, 2011 at 6:04 pm

    hahah- I was recently wogging in our development and a group of boys drove up and yelled nice ass…and then shut up when they saw my “nice front” ;). I hateeeeeeeee the fragile concern! Drives me nutso! Although I know everyone is just trying to be helpful/sweet.

    • Fitnessista on July 25, 2011 at 12:30 am

      nice front!!! hahaha i love it

  19. Sara K on July 24, 2011 at 6:07 pm

    Ugh that chubby comment would make me so pissed- it’s like what gives people the idea that they can say stuff like that? Zumba while preggers is bad ass 🙂 Love it, you’re gonna have one salsa-loving son!

  20. Jenna H on July 24, 2011 at 6:21 pm

    I can totally relate with the names thing. I’m not pregnant yet, but a couple weeks ago I mentioned to my mom that one of my favorite boy names was Oliver and she said “Oliver is a name for pus*ies.” My own mother! I wanted to cry (and I’m not even pregnant!). I’m glad your dad was joking though (my mom wasn’t). I’ve now made the executive decision to not share any names until the birth certificate is already filled out and signed to avoid any more drama. And yes, Oliver is still at the top of our list :).

    One of my good friends just had a baby, and she was so annoyed how everyone was treating her like she was going to break any second. Also, once she hit six months people kept acting like she was going to go into labor at any moment, it was so weird. Finally when she was about 8 months she got so fed up in the grocery store when someone was making a big deal about her carrying one (!) very light sack to her car she totally snapped at the guy and was like “I’m pregnant, not dying!” hah.

    • Lindsey on July 24, 2011 at 6:42 pm

      love the name Oliver!

      @Gina, do you wear your rings on a chain around your neck? MY husband bought me a Lisa Leonard necklace (great reason to get one!) and I wore the rings with the pendant – it was cute and didn’t make it so awkward when people would glance at my hand (why do people still do that, btw!?)

      • Lindsey on July 24, 2011 at 6:43 pm

        sorry, totally didn’t mean to capitalize MY like that. it sounds snotty. 😉 btw, i love these stories. i’m glad that you just roll with the punches for the most part – most people could take a lesson in that!

      • Fitnessista on July 25, 2011 at 12:29 am

        that’s good to know! i’m too paranoid with how much i teach/workout that the chain would break.

    • Fitnessista on July 25, 2011 at 12:30 am

      i LOVE the name oliver!

  21. Beth Van Eman on July 24, 2011 at 6:28 pm

    This is only the beginning of people sticking their noise in your business. When you walk around with a new baby, everyone and their brother thinks you need advice. You’ll hear some crazy stuff! It stops as the baby/kid gets a little older.

  22. Laura (Cookies vs. Carrots) on July 24, 2011 at 6:28 pm

    Hahaha, these crack me up big time! People are so awkward!

  23. Lauren on July 24, 2011 at 6:38 pm

    Haha! So funny! Believe me, more are coming! My ring stopped fitting me early on as well. But my wedding band fit almost till I was 8 months. I remember wondering if people thought I was just knocked up with a baby daddy! Lol

  24. Ali @ urbanfruitbat on July 24, 2011 at 6:43 pm

    Oh man! Getting hit on would be super awkward. But I have every confidence that you can take it all in stride. People say such silly things, without thinking I think. I am glad that you don’t let them get to you. OH NO about your dad!

  25. Suzanne on July 24, 2011 at 6:44 pm

    Check,check, and check. I have had all those things happen when I was preggers as well. I had a few pervs hit on me because apparently they found pregnant chicks hot. Ugh gross. I had some lady tell me that I looked nice and fat which according to her where she came from that was a compliment. I think that being fit chicks we take offense to anything that insinuates that we look chubby because we work hard at it and in my mind I thought I looked pretty good for a 9mth mommy 🙂 When I took my girlfriend to the gym with me and my big belly and kicked her butt I think I pretty much got rid of the fragile petunia thing. Haha. Can’t wait to hear more of your pregnancy adventure.

  26. Brittany @ Itty Bits of Balance on July 24, 2011 at 6:45 pm

    People hit on you even when you’re pregnant!? Now that’s just plain creepy!

    And for the woman who called you chubby– that would be awkward even if you weren’t pregnant! haha

  27. Chelsea @ One Healthy Munchkin on July 24, 2011 at 7:06 pm

    Haha your dad is hilarious! Any chance you’re going to share the possible baby names with us?! 😀

    • Fitnessista on July 25, 2011 at 12:29 am

      nope. hahaa

  28. christina cadden on July 24, 2011 at 7:07 pm

    I had to buy a fake wedding band because mine were so swollen as well.

  29. Hillary on July 24, 2011 at 7:10 pm

    I dare someone to call me chubby when I’m pregnant. I’ll give them a serious dose of sass!

    • Christena on July 25, 2011 at 6:06 pm

      Hillary: I just spit my drink out laughing at your comment because instead of “sass” I read “ass” & it struck me as so hilarious….like you were going to “moon” the commenter or something….

      Love the pregnancy posts! Glad you seem to be taking it all very lightly, when I know these things have to be frustrating!

  30. Amy on July 24, 2011 at 7:30 pm

    I remember when I was about 5 months pregnant with my son Joey, I just started to show. and was quite relieved to do so We were waiting to tell friends and family because that pregnancy was a bit shaky. We finally planned a big get together to let everyone know and I was afraid everyone would figure out before I said anything. My somehow-he-is-still-my husband 😉 told me no one would guess I was pregnant, I just looked like I was getting a little chubby.

    BTW, I love the family posts. It’s best to approach these situations with humor 🙂

    • Fitnessista on July 25, 2011 at 12:28 am

      hahah! wow
      thank you- i’m glad you like them!

  31. Averie @ Love Veggies and Yoga on July 24, 2011 at 7:31 pm

    I told you this before but when I was 35 weeks we were in Aruba and I was in a bikini and a woman after I told her I was almost 8 mos pregnant said to me, Oh I thought you just had a BEER BELLY!

    I wanted to slap her. And still do.

    Chubby? GRRRR!!! I would have flipped.

    And getting hit on…girl. I get whistled at when I am running all the time. I used to think after I had a kid it would change. No!! Now, they whistle while I am pushing my jogging stroller! It’s sick. Seriously. Sick. I hate it!!! I try to wear the baggiest ugliest clothes to prevent this but it still happens. Ugh!

    So you are not safe yet from the getting hit on stuff. ugh!

    Have a great week girlie! Good luck with the key pickup!!

  32. Danielle (Shrinking and Studying) on July 24, 2011 at 7:41 pm

    Hahaha, #1 totally made me laugh. I can’t believe so many people check for a wedding ring after seeing your baby belly tho… I suppose subtlety is not our general populations’ strong suit…

    I still think you’d rock in a dance performance and I can’t wait to hear baby names!!

  33. Jessica @ Sushi and Sit-Ups on July 24, 2011 at 8:38 pm

    The getting hit on story doesn’t sound awkward but awesome! You still got it, mama! LOL

  34. mama on July 24, 2011 at 9:28 pm

    There’s a great book out called ‘Exercising through your pregnancy” or something of that nature! It kind of debunks a lot of the myths people think you should and shouldn’t do while pregnant! Great read! Oh, and bout the name thing! I hated hearing family and friends tear apart the names other people were deciding between when they were pregnant! So when dh and i got pregnant both times we didnt tell until we knew what the name was for sure going to be! Someone can say they dont like it if you’re still deciding but when you say the name is going to be ____, they cant say anything but positive comments! You look great and i luv the family posts so much!

  35. mary on July 24, 2011 at 9:58 pm

    Just wait until someone talks to you through your baby. “Tell your mama it’s too hot for that beanie!” The advice is annoying as hell. Even your mom will probably bug you with it eventually.

    I still recall being hurt at one sister criticizing the (lovely, ordinary) name we picked out. I didn’t like her kids’ names but would never tell someone that.

    • Fitnessista on July 25, 2011 at 12:26 am

      that will drive me crrraaazzzzyyy

    • Colette on July 25, 2011 at 10:43 am

      Ohhh… totally! My mom and mother-in-law do that all the time! The mean well (I think) but it drives me nuts!!! Especially when they would try to calm my crying baby down all while talking about how it’s probably gas, and “your mommy should not eat anymore…” fill in the blank… Ugh! Especially annoying when breastfeeding was already difficult for me.

  36. courtney @ cupcakedynamite on July 24, 2011 at 10:26 pm

    cracking up at you turning around and giving them the stink eye. makes me think of juno, “And I doubt she gave you the stink eye that’s just how her face looks, you know? That’s just her face.” glad yours was intentional. 😉

  37. Beatrix on July 24, 2011 at 10:45 pm

    Love the first one..cracked me up. Good for you for taking it all in stride and not letting people get to you. I’ve never been pregnant, but I could see myself being the same way.

  38. Sam @ Mom At The Barre on July 24, 2011 at 11:40 pm

    The name issue is real! People love to give their opinion when you tell them your list of potential names and it isn’t always pretty! I made the mistake of telling my top 5 names to one of my closest friends who rudely vetoed all of them. I love her anyway but I decided not to discuss names until after the baby was born. And who’s going to be unclassy enough to say anything after you’ve already named the baby!

    I too have gotten whistled at while I was pushing a stroller! I want to scream out to them, ‘But I’m a mother!!” So obnoxious!

  39. katie on July 25, 2011 at 12:52 am

    You’re so funny. I’ve never been pregnant but going through pregnancy with my sister and co-workers I developed a serious sympathy for pregnant women. The things people say to them is nuts! Of course there were tons of cute appropriate comments that my sister always ate up and enjoyed but it’s so bizarre that people want to talk about really private personal things and even criticize every choice they’re already making and it’s ok because shes pregnant! Also, after hearing what they went through with name critics, I plan to keep them secret (which probably wont last til the baby is born) but yeah… people can be real party poopers on those!

  40. Yolie @ Practising Wellness on July 25, 2011 at 8:42 am

    love this post, its so rad to hear how you handle awkward situations, and speak of them with humour and candour! 🙂 thank you for sharing, and three cheers for going with the flow! 😀 xyx

  41. Megan on July 25, 2011 at 9:01 am

    Gotta love it– once you are pregnant, and then after you have your babe, people will still think it’s okay to comment on whatever pops into their head.

  42. Nicole on July 25, 2011 at 9:48 am

    I can’t help but think of the flipside of this moment…somewhere out there in the bloggie world, some poor schmuck is writing about how he and his boys were driving around and saw a hot girl. They did what any schmuck would do and started hooting and hollering only to have her turn around and be preggers! Haha

    • Fitnessista on July 25, 2011 at 10:05 am

      haha! if they have a blog, i’d like to read it 😉

  43. @hilaryfleming @ healthgirltv on July 25, 2011 at 10:18 am

    I found out I was preg when I was dancing on the first season of ” dance your ass off” and unfortunately started showing I swear at like 5 weeks. Of course I didn’t want to tell everyone on the show that I was Preg until I was past the first tri but ended up having to tell them because wardrobe was like “you’ve added two inches to belly, u need to cut back a craft services.” when I told producers it went like this:
    H: hey guys, so I’m pregnant.
    P: we knew it!
    H: how? I’m like 6 weeks along
    P: you’ve been way nicer.
    H: I see
    P: and your belly is starting to stick out of your costumes.
    H: um thanks
    P: its weird bc people dont usually show til like 15 weeks right?
    H: So I’ve heard
    P: totally not the case with u
    H: (awkward laugh)
    P: well, congrats! Just don’t go to crazy at craft services.
    H: I’ll be in my dressing room…(under my breath) eating.
    Awkward.
    *most of the producers were super supportive, there are always a few socially awkward prods in the mix.
    Yay for awkie Preg moments!

    • Fitnessista on July 25, 2011 at 10:46 am

      hahahaha omg

  44. Kat on July 25, 2011 at 10:32 am

    I love the awkward moments! My boss came straight out and asked me when I was only 8 weeks and not really telling anyone yet – my boobs have gotten so big that it has pretty much given it away at work! it’s all guys, lol. people aren’t always tactful with the weight gain thing – when I say I’m feeling fat, my hubby tells me I will never be fat, just “maternity-sized” 😉

  45. Colette on July 25, 2011 at 10:39 am

    Quick funny pregnancy moment for me (as a fellow Arizonan, you’ll appreciate this)… I was telling some of my coworkers about a yummy Mexican dinner I had the previous night, and this one lady – in all seriousness – looked at me and said that I shouldn’t be eating Mexican food while preggo. I was like, Um… what do you think the people in Mexico eat? Anyway, it still cracks me up to this day, and this happened 7 years ago. Too funny!

    • Fitnessista on July 25, 2011 at 10:45 am

      hahaha! wow! mexican food is one of the few things that ALWAYS sounds good to me 🙂

  46. Shayla @ The Good Life on July 25, 2011 at 12:20 pm

    Love these posts and I love your sense of humor and taking all these awkward moments in stride…you’re awesome 🙂

    And your dad is hilarious…can’t wait to hear the chosen baby name when he arrives! 🙂

  47. jenna on July 25, 2011 at 2:00 pm

    haha-i know people who never reveal the name until the baby is born b/c of people judging their choosen name.

    I would soak up the weight gain! Youre gaining weight for a GREAT reason!

    I would also soak up the fragile petunia. I loved that everyone is so caring towards pregnant people. it really brings out the good in people! 😉

  48. Mama Laughlin on July 25, 2011 at 2:23 pm

    I so can relate to all the comments you’re getting.
    I am also pregnant (24 weeks) and working out still and people of course have their opinions on “Oh, you need to slow down” or “Are you sure you should be running still?”
    UGH.
    When I was pregnant with my first child I was about 50 lbs. heavier than I am now and people used to ask me “Are you SURE there’s just one baby in there?”
    “Yep bitch, I’m sure! I’m just fat!”
    And I learned with #1 to not tell people our baby names. I just don’t want/need other people’s opinions.
    Anyway, through pregnancy you come to realize that people are just morons!
    You literally have to just let stuff go in one ear and out the other!

  49. VegMommy on July 25, 2011 at 3:43 pm

    You know, if you threw a punch or used some sassy language at someone for their insensitive remarks, you could always just blame it on the pregnancy hormones. (That’s if you actually regretted it later.) Just sayin’.

  50. Lauren@hungryspinner on July 25, 2011 at 4:20 pm

    “I’m not chubby, I’m pregnant, you punk.

    Awkward.”

    Bahaha!!!! Im ROLLING! i love it.
    HOW RUDE of them though! REALLYY!?

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