11/18: Notes from the week
-At least once a day, I’ll go into the nursery to smell the sweet baby smell of Dreft.
[Hoping to have it finished by the end of next week!]
Last weekend, I did a LOT of baby laundry…
all of her bedding,
little diapers
0-3 month clothes
blankets, towels and washcloths are washed and ready for her.
I’m waiting to wash the baby carriers and wraps
+ her 3 month and up clothes until we actually need them, or when I re-wash the bedding.
Anyway, I kind of love going into the nursery to smell the fresh baby laundry smell, look at all of tiny things, and think about how close we’re getting to meeting her.
-It’s amazing what a midwife appointment can do for a mood. Hearing the little heartbeat and learning that she’s head down (wahoo!) was more than enough to lift my spirits today. I also had a chance to talk with the midwife about some of the concerns I’ve been having –like whether or not we should bank the baby’s cord blood, induction, and nighttime contractions- and like always, she spent so much time to talk and answer questions. She also wrote down a tea recipe for me- I’ll be sure to post it when I make it this weekend 🙂
-Speaking of moods, I need to stop being a cranky pants when I can’t sleep at night. I guess this is my body telling me to get used to it? This morning, I was such a punk to my hubby, and he’s seriously the most amazing man ever. I laid there with eyes open for the entire 45 minutes he was in the shower, and when he came in to hug me for the second time this morning, I said
“Do you have ear plugs I can wear when you shower?”
“Yes. You didn’t go back to sleep?”
“No and I’m mad.”
He went to go hug me again and apologize – I told him to stop hugging me. So rude. I called him after he left for work to apologize :/ I feel like women definitely have a hard time with pregnancy and dealing with all of the things/moods/craziness that comes with it, but the men certainly aren’t off the hook. They have to deal with us, and mine has been so wonderful and understanding during the few times that hormones have taken over.
-I’m really thankful we got to take a last little getaway before the holiday craziness begins and little lady makes her grand debut. It was so fun to just enjoy each other, not have to worry about all of the to-dos in our usual routine, and have a quality vacay with just the two of us.
Before we left on Wednesday, my friend Whitney was so sweet to take some beach maternity photos for us… I’m excited to see how they turned out.
-On top of being cranky the past couple of days, I’m also an emotional nutcase. I came home from work yesterday and immediately started crying (it was a great day, but keeping my energy up and teaching good classes has been challenging when I feel heavy and exhausted), and have been tearing up on and off today. On the drive home this afternoon, big alligator tears streaming down my face, I just kept thinking about how grateful I am. Grateful that we’re here in Tucson, that things with the pregnancy seem to be going well so far – I’ll really feel relieved when we’re all home from the hospital safely, and beyond blessed that Tom is here with me.
He got an email this week asking if he’d like to deploy again for 6 months.
It would be his 4th deployment in 5 years, and with a baby almost here, I’m also very grateful that he said “no thank you.”
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Love the kitty shirt! And I bet the words “no thank you” were the best thing ever to see! 🙂
Omgsh, I’m totally the same way with my boyfriend. He woke me up early and I was SO MAD for like..2 hours straight. And then I realized I was being ridiculous. But I don’t have the pregnancy excuse you do! 🙂
I love the pink and brown colors of your nursery. Great combo!
Loved reading this update and seeing all of the sweet little baby things. I also wander in the nursery just to smell the “baby smell” lately – Dreft is amazing! But most of all, it was a relief to see the words “no thank you” at the end of the post. Glad you get to have such a nice guy around when baby girl arrives!
I was cranky with my husband like that after several nights of him having to work late and waking me up in the middle of the night when he got home, and I can’t even blame it on pregnancy. 😉 I immediately felt bad (he certainly didn’t want to work 16 hour days), but I’m definitely grumpy when anyone messes with my sleep.
Glad you and your husband get to spend this time together. 🙂
Oh my goodness…this post was wonderful. I am so incredibly happy for you. First, so, so, happy that he was able to turn down deployment. What a huge relief for you, I couldn’t even imagine. Second, I completely hear you on the cranky-when-tired thing. I’m not pregnant and I’m the same way when super tired. I get irritable, and cranky and tend to take it out on my fiance, then feel horrible the next day. I was recently thinking- “how am I going to be able to deal with being tired when I have kids?!” Would love to hear updates when your little girl is here…I’m sure like everything, one learns to adapt 🙂
You might want to cut out the picture of the crib… I believe the baby’s name is pretty obvious on the couch 😉 I missed the last mistake, so I’m happy I caught this one. Living vicariously through you while I struggle to get pregnant myself!
I noticed that too! Better crop that picture STAT! 🙂
so many people know already, i’m just going to leave it. i’m not going to post her name though because i’m waiting to know that she’s ok and healthy.
Awww, it’s not that obvious! Even after reading this comment, it took me like 5 minutes to figure out what people were talking about. Your nursery decor is lovely and the name is even lovelier! I enjoy hearing about your pregnancy, so thanks for sharing this new adventure on the blog!
omg. i quit. haha.
I just laughed so loud, you’re adorable… I’m not even going to go back and try to read it. 🙂
Okay, I peeked. The suspense has been killing me. I’m just so glad you picked that name…I have been hoping it was that the whole time! It’s my little sister’s name and I LOVE IT!!! Your baby will have a lot to live up to–my little sister is awesome 😉 You guys are the cutest little family!!! I have loved your honesty throughout this journey. I’m so happy that your family will be able to be together!
This post warms my heart 🙂
You have to be the cutest pregnant woman ever! Haha, I know that has to be weird coming from a stranger, but it’s so cute to get your weekly updates and see your bump growing. 🙂 Major props for recognizing your emotions and finding a way to cope with them successfully. I don’t know a woman in the world that doesn’t struggle with hormones and being bat sh*t crazy sometimes, pregnant or no.
Awww, I’m so sorry you’re exhausted. You won’t feel heavy for much longer and it will feel amazing to have a spring in your step again!
Sleep deprivation is really, really hard, and I think it’s one of those topics that, because it’s common to all new-mothering experiences, people assume you’ll just deal with it and move on. But it’s a huge ordeal and you should do as much resting and nurturing yourself as you can. Give yourself a break and try to make smaller to-do lists. And thank your lucky stars for an understanding husband!
thanks, girl. that’s sweet to hear, because usually people will definitely just say “it’s part of life, it will only get worse, get used to it, wah wah.”
and yes, i’m very thankful! he’s a good guy <3
Yeah, getting “used to it” doesn’t really just work! We’re pregnant with #2 here, and I’m devoting major time to a little book called “The Power of Positive Thinking”. I MUST DEAL BETTER THAN BEFORE! LOL
Cute post, so happy for you! The baby’s room is gorgeous and you look great!
thank you, christine! <3
Cute post!
but all i thought was…your husband takes 45 minute showers?
at least. i don’t blame him though (even though i do make fun of him).. when he’s deployed, he gets 2 minute cold showers, so when he’s home, he likes to take long hot showers. it balances out because i take superfast showers, maybe 5-10 min max.
When I got home from my deployment a few weeks ago my husband asked me what was the first thing I wanted to do? I told him a long, hot shower without shower shoes!
Ha, my husband and I are the EXACT same way! And he’s a military man too, and I never thought of that. I take the shortest showers ever, and he will seriously have a party in there for like 45 minutes! I can’t fathom the pruniness. But now I totally get it 🙂
yep! i used to tease him about it (what are you doing in there?! the earth! you’re hurting the earth!) but he told me to try to take 2-minute cold showers for 7 months in a row. i stopped teasing about it… for the most part 😉
My husband’s not in the military and does this. I’ll go 20 minutes into his shower to ask him a question and his hair hasn’t even been washed. Um..? 30-45 minutes later he’s finally done. Boys don’t have to shave their legs.. or use conditioner.. umm what are you doing in there?
I would fall asleep!
Love the nursery and I LOVE THE NAME! So adorable!!
You look so beautiful! You look so toned still with just the baby bump in front. 😉 People used to warn me while I was pregnant about resting up & I really didn’t get it. We seriously could not have prepared for it; we were Zombies those first few months! I remember wondering how parents did it & still had more. 🙂 I love the colors you used for the nursery. 😉
My first thought of this pic……uh oh here we go again, she has the name in the pic again. Glad you are a good sport! : )
yeah i quit. i just have to realize that my brain is on vacay and it was going to happen sooner or later
I loved this post. I love that you share this with us. I always look forward to reading your family posts. I wouldn’t fret too much about being cranky. It happens and I can’t imagine how everything is affecting you. And I’m sure the pilot knows as well
Ps the end made me really smile and my heart jumped a little
Have a wonderful weekend.
Love the little diapers and clothes…so cute! And so glad your hubby said no to the deployment!
One of the more irritating parts about the end of pregnancy is everyone admonishing you to sleep. Sleep?! With restless legs, sciatica, huge belly, a million pillows and night sweats, constant urges to pee, plus all of the emotional anxiety?! Who can sleep?!
All that to say–I sympathize 🙂 I just tried to find time to beach myself on the couch and watch reruns of my favorite shows. Sometimes I actually passed out 🙂
i honestly dont know what it is, but i walk into my niece’s room to just smell it every time i’m over there 🙂 you’e post made me tear up a bit. so truly happy for you 🙂
thank you, friend <3 hope you're doing well!
eek obviously i mean your* !! doing well (half marathon on sunday!) and thinking all good thoughts for you
I am so happy Tom said no! Whew!
1. I promise you that the sleep is at its absolute worst right NOW. Once you have your body to yourself again you will sleep better, and even if it’s for short periods of time you WILL feel better. Promise! I think pregnancy sleep was much harder because you can’t get comfy. The first few weeks R and I struggled with sleep, but even the 2-3 hours I got in a row were amazing. You’ll see!
2. I’m so happy he is not deploying again.
3. Ummmm what can Raffi get for baby fitnapilot? We were planning on getting you the Sleepy Wrap, but it looks like you already have the Moby! please let me know what else you’re missing.
that’s so good to know- i miss good sleep!!!
you don’t need to send us anything, silly girl. i just want a baby playdate soon! <3
Thank you for taking the time to do these family posts! My husband and I are at the point where we’re alllllmost ready to start trying for a little one, and as excited as I am, I’m also super terrified of the unknown! Your posts reassure me that it’s ok to be a little nervous, to take it one day at a time and learn as much as I can, and to just roll with it. You & Tom are going to be amazing parents 🙂
your nursery is so gorgeous! i spent the last two months of my pregnancy on bedrest and most of it was in the nursery, smelling that lovely baby laundry smell 🙂 i’m so pleased you decided to go with the cloth diapers – my twins are 7 months old now and i’ve been so grateful i made the choice and didn’t let others sway me in the disposable decision. you look amazing too! love the pregnancy glow 🙂
The sweet, clean baby’s laundry smell is the best!
This post totally rang true for me today. I am 10 and 1/2 weeks along in my first pregnancy, and my morning sickness has been worse than I ever imagined. My husband has been so great about dealing with me being sick all the time, and super grumpy as well. It makes it a little easier to bear knowing I have an amazing man at my side! I love reading your family posts! Especially because I am looking forward to experiencing all those things as my pregnancy progresses!
I just teared up about the “no, thank you”. So amazing 🙂
What I wouldn’t give to have my husband be able to say “no, thank you” to deployments:( He’s off to Afghanistan in January for 12 months! But I’m grateful we don’t have kids yet, bc it breaks my heart to hear the stories from moms in the unit (this unit has been doing 1 year out, 1.5 years back since the war began!). I’m hoping that by the time we have kids, these wars will finally be over:)
Thank goodness he turned down the deployment (and had a choice)…ohmygosh. Yes.
And I am so happy that you had your getaway; sounds like it was needed and girl, all pregnant women have been there with the moods. My husband’s cologne drove me nuts when I was preg and I remember snapping at him for wearing it..and he’s like but I want to smell good for you. And I was like, but I hate it! And then I’d end up crying b/c I felt like such a crabby pants. Yes, we’ve all been there.
And the diapers…TOO CUTE! Love the pink minky cover. I wish I could give you all of my old ones…some of them I never even had her wear…they were handmade one of a kinds. What blogs are to me now and Pinterest, Diaperswappers was to me back then 🙂
I still get annoyed with my husband and our kids are 1 and 3. He will leave for work at 5:30, be really noisy and then look at them on the monitor and tell me someone’s awake…and then leave. If he had just left I would have never known someone was awake and they may have gone back to sleep…then he stomps down the stairs with the dog and no one goes back to sleep. Totally feel your pain!
The nursery looks so nice so far and you are just too cute! I am so happy for you that he said no to the deployment! You have a great guy, but you are also a great wife. Even though you might feel cranky and snap sometimes, at least you remember to apologize and ask for forgiveness. That goes a long way!
I’m SO happy to hear he’s not deploying! Yay! And I love how humble you are about your bad moments.
Oh the nursery is just gorgeous!!! It looks a lot the way I pictured it when i was creepily stalking your bedding photos 🙂
Also, I’m SO glad the pilot said “no” to deployment… i’d have to come there and smack him if he’d said yes!
Aw, I’m sure he understands. On days like this just say “I’m sorry, but you need to pamper me I made a kidney (or your organ of choice) today” 🙂 they can’t argue with that!
I’m so happy you have a baby K’tan. I have the same line up of carriers, and I really found that one to be great, a little simpler than the moby and really comfy for the baby when they are small. I loved the Ergo as my twins got bigger, but when they were teeny that K’tan was the one I reached for every time.
Ahhhh, the smell of Dreft. Even now, 4 years later, it takes me to such a wonderful, happy place.
You are doing great..don’t worry about the moodiness; it is a woman’s gift to have a wide range of emotions, as it makes us better, more empathetic caregivers. I found myself apologizing to my husband, too!
I agree with you about the lack of sleep and how it may be the body’s way of prepping you. I went through the same thing, and they still wake me up a few times a week. Embrace daytime naps…and don’t feel guilty about it (I had to get over that!).
This is just adorable. The baby’s name is adorable, her room is adorable, and you and Tom are adorable. I love it all. In the least creepy way possible!
GO TOM! Ahhhh I’m so excited. The due date is so soon 🙂 ahahah I know what you mean about mood swings, SAME THING happens when I’m on my periodtastic. Hormones. Ugh
You sweet thing, you! Try not to get too down about your raging hormone moments, your going to have them at certain times and honestly I think our hubbies are way more understanding than we give them credit for. You have such a special guy in Tom and what a blessing he turned down the offer to be deployed.
Please say you’ll share the beach preg pics when you get them!
Xo Kat
So glad he had the choice to turn down deployment. Didn’t realize it worked that way but I’m glad for you both it does!
I can act like a mega bitch to my husband when it’s something to do with sleep and I have no hormonal excuse. ha!
it nver works out this way- i was shocked when he told me the story! since he’s an instructor, he’s not technically supposed to deploy, but something came up anyway
Amazing that he has the option to say “no thanks, air force dude”! Does it come with seniority? I always think of the military as so “do this, not that”. My uncle had passed away in March but in order to be buried in Arlington we had to wait until July…so said the Army.
so sorry to hear about your uncle <3
and no, they usually just tell the pilot that he's going. since we're here at a training squadron (he's an instructor for all of the new a-10 pilots), he technically isn't supposed to deploy since he's teaching. something came up, so they needed someone to go anyway
gotchya! so great that at this time in your lives he’s in that position. things always happen for a reason. 🙂 (and thanks!)
SO happy Tom said no to a redeployment right now! And I absolutely love the baby room, and the baby’s name! One of my favorite baby names!
I couldn’t even IMAGINE what you would do if Tom was deployed again! That would have been so horrible! I am thankful with you love.
HELP!!!!!! I have been looking everywhere for a picture just like the one you have on the couch for my baby girl in those exact colors!!!! Where did you buy it???? Is it a brand name that maybe I could order? My girl has a different name but maybe I could find one in her name??? Oh I would so appreciate your help, I’ve been looking everywhere! P.S. You are gorgeous!
it was a gift for our baby shower- i have no idea where my parents got it, but i love it so much
When will you go on maternity leave, and how long will you have off? Just wondering as you have such an active job 🙂 Also, I’m so glad the Pilot didn’t have to be deployed!
i get 12 weeks 🙂
Your nursery is very cute! Can’t wait to see the finished product!!!
Ps…baby detergent always smells so amazing. Why is that???
Oh my gosh, Gina, you should absolutely have Tom give you some of those earplugs we’re given when we go out to the flight line. Rodney’s snoring seriously sounds like a motorboat and I had the hardest time sleeping because of it, especially towards the end of my pregnancy. Those made a world of difference!
good to know- i’ll steal some for tonight 🙂
Oh my goodness. The K’tan, the Moby, the Bjorn and the Ergo? You sure have all your bases covered 🙂
It actually works out well to have newborn in the winter, because the wraps are nice for snuggling a sleeping newborn, but all of that fabric is WAY hot in the summer (I live in Florida). The Ergo is great once the baby gets a little bit bigger, and I found it the most lightweight and supportive. Plus, I believe it’s the only one with a sun-shade, which is a must-have on a bright, sunny day.
that’s good to know!!
yeah i heard that everyone has their favorites and those were the most popular, so i’m excited to see which one i love the most
You can see the framed Olivia poster on the couch in one of the pics 🙂 The nursery looks cute!
ugh. my husband is a surgeon and even though we are childfree i quit working because i could not handle the sleep depravation. i’d rather relish the time i spend with him than be a zombie at work while sacrificing hanging out time. if he’s free at 3am, so am i now too:)
Teared up at that ‘no thank you’ :’) I understand if you delete/ignore this rather intrusive question, but I’m wondering what are the pilot’s plans career/deployment-wise after the baby is born?
we’re supposed to be here at least 2 1/2 years, and since he’s an instructor, he’s not technically supposed to deploy from his current squadron. after the 2 1/2-3 years is up, we have no idea where they’ll move us to or what’s happening.