Breaking up
This post is dedicated to the existence of the slow cooker.
Without you, we’d get takeout a lot more often.
Leaving for work this morning was a little on the hectic side. I ended up getting my first class covered so we could take Liv to the pediatrician -her eye was looking a little funky but they think it’s just allergies- made it in time to work for Zumba, came home for lunch:
(greens, tomatoes, artichokes, tempeh, lemon and olive oil dressing, toast with green chili goat cream cheese)
put dinner in the slow cooker:
and headed back to work. Some friends and I decided that we’re going to record some Zumba dances and put them up on YouTube- I’m pretty excited about it!
When I got back home, the chicken was ready for shredding:
Liv and I ate an early dinner since we knew the Pilot would be getting home as I put her to bed- he flew later today. She spit out and gagged at the carrots I made her, and was ALL OVER the avocado. I couldn’t give it to her fast enough. Definitely our child 😉
I had a weight room shift as my last hour, and while it used to not be my fave -it was tiring standing and cleaning treadmills with a super preg belly- I don’t mind it at all now. I get the chance to chat with guests, who often amaze me with their stories, and it’s good, quiet, thinking time as I walk around and clean. Since there were personal training sessions going on, I found myself thinking about past clients I’ve trained: the ones who became lifelong friends (especially Lisa aka Tinkerbell- I miss that lady so much), the ones who didn’t quite work out (literally?) and the ones I had to break up with.
I’ve written about breaking up with your personal trainer before, but sometimes it goes the other way, too. There can be little things like personality/training differences, or what I’ve dealt with a few times in the past: people want to change, but think it will happen by writing a check instead of going to their appointments and putting in the effort. This was hard for me because I hate to see people waste their money and it also wasted my time when I’d go to the gym and wait for them to not show up. I’d train them for a while, and after consistent no-shows and scary food journals, I kindly told them that I didn’t feel right accepting their money when we weren’t training together and maybe it would be better to wait until they’re able to commit to regular training schedule and cleaning up eats.
This is a huge reason why I won’t preach to others about about working out and eating well: if they want to do it, like REALLY want to make it happen, they’ll do it. What I say has no difference at all, and while I’m happy to be the one to encourage them along the way and help develop strategies to encourage their success, my words won’t be their firework that sets the ball into motion. Their inner desire and motivation to achieve their goals are what will make them succeed.
Fellow trainers, have you had to deal with something similar in the past?
Non-training friends, what was the firework that made you decide to change something, or has health always been important to you?
Hope you’re having a great day so far <3
xoxo
Gina
85 Comments
Leave a Comment
This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.
I miss funny quotes lady!
Me too!!!
Oh man, those “break-up” conversation must have been difficult, but you were definitely doing the right thing. That’s so funny that Livi spit out her carrots; I love raw carrots, but am really not a fan of cooked carrots, so I can see where she’s coming from 🙂 I’d love to see some Zumba videos from you and your friends!
sorry this doesn’t relate to this post but i’m just curious (and for anyone who reads this comment!), are there any “healthy foods” you don’t like? i eat everything and will try anything once, but i just had tempeh and was so grossed out! i don’t know what it was so maybe i would like it if it was prepared differently, but i was sadly not a fan!
healthy eater & personal trainer/fitness instructor and i hate greek yogurt! i’ve tried it by itself, with different mix ins, everything and still can’t make myself like it
I hate greek yogurt, too! I’ve tried it several times really hoping to find a flavor I like, but blech! I love regular yogurt & eat it all the time.
How did you eat it? If you weren’t a fan of the taste/texture, try steaming it for 10 minutes. Steaming it removes some of the bite and makes it easier for marinades to penetrate it. Also, definitely marinate it! The longer, the better. I usually go with an Asian marinade or my favorite, buffalo tempeh!
I really hate tempeh. I’ve tried it every way and .. nope. I’m never going to enjoy it. I’ve given up.
Every time my pants start feeling tight, it’s time to re-evaluate what I’ve been up to. And usually it’s slacking off on the workouts…that snug feeling is all I need to get motivated again!
YESSSSS, Zumba dance videos!!! I have been searching YouTube because I can’t find a good class to attend in my area since I’ve moved home from university. Until you post your own videos are there any on YouTube you would suggest? So far I’ve only been able to find a few. Thanks Gina! Also, love love love the summer shape up so far 🙂
I started training with a guy at my local gym last september. This gym doesn’t offer the most honest of training packages / contracts, but no less I was motivated enough to fork over what was left of my money after paying student loans monthly for one full year 🙂
Before I started with him, I had been going spinning religiously for about one year and hit a wall with progress so I was already motivated before him. I signed up, and we met twice a month. It was going OK….but he started to flake on me during sessions. I would catch him looking in the mirrors at himself, he would stop paying attention to my form and start talking to girls working out around us…it was getting awful. So I stopped scheduling appointments with him. I was still paying monthly, but I just had had enough! It was a month before he texted me asking me to come back in to train.
I’ve been seeing him once a week now for about a month to catch up on sessions and things are about the same… but I signed a one year contract and can’t afford to cancel my sessions. 🙁
So I’m not saying that you are a bad trainer by any means 🙂 Or that every single trainer is like this. But I am saying that I showed up to train with a real desire to change and was met with little to no help from this one, special trainer and I do not think I would do it again. I would definitely never sign another contract for one year.
It’s very interesting hearing it from your point of view though! Thanks for sharing what a real, committed, hard working, helpful trainer thinks of this awkward dilemma! 🙂
xoxox
LOVE your blog by the way 🙂 especially the recipes!
melissa
Oh man, that trainer sounds terrible! It’s pretty much my worst nightmare.
I was so lucky in that the very first trainer I worked with – we clicked immediately. She’s the type of person that doesn’t mind if I send her an email or text asking about a work out she showed me or what kind of snack I should eat after a work out.
Also – I totally feel your pain about the student loans! My husband and I pay nearly double our rent in student loans payments! 🙁
I worked in a gym where this sort of thing went on all the time. They would work really hard selling the training package and couldn’t care less about training the client. It is shameful and not what personal training should be about. If gives good trainers a bad reputation. I’m sorry you have had this experience.
Can you talk to a manager at the gym, explain how disappointed you’ve been with your training sessions, and see about them possibly refunding at least PART of the package? I assume that you pay some kind of monthly dues, so if they feel that they may lose you as a paying member, then maybe they will arrange some sort of compromise in the interest of customer service.
If they won’t, then make sure you leave online reviews wherever you can! It’s not a matter of spite, but letting people know that at least one of the trainers there is sub-par and that there isn’t any sort of ‘satisfaction guarantee’. You could at least spare somebody else from wasting their hard-earned money!!
Health has always been important to me and I’ve actually always loved exercising…even though the activities have shifted through the years. I SO SO wish there was a trainer like you in my area. I am extremely motivated and always make it to the gym 6 days a week. I just like to mix things up and have hired different trainers over the years at different gyms. It has always been SUCH a disappointment. 🙁 The best training experience I have ever had was with an on-line trainer believe it or not. It’s not like I live in the boondocks either, I’m in CA for heaven sakes! I really love my current gym and the classes they offer (BodyPump, BodyAttack, BodyCombat, BodyStep…etc) but would love to add personal training every once in awhile to mix it up. I observe all the trainers while I do cardio on the stairs and none of them impress me at all. Thankfully I love the classes and am motivated to bring my own weight routines with me to the gym but to have you would be so fantastic. With your upbeat motivating style, you just seem like you would push your clients and hold them accountable. Your clients in AZ are very lucky to have you!
Was about to comment pretty much the exact same thing. Would love to have fitnessista myself as a trainer, and I agree her clients are very lucky!!
I realized I’m a better mom when I take care of myself, eat healthy and stay active. Best. Motivation. Ever.
DITTO!
I’m new to the fitness/health food world for sure- only about two/three months of this so far. What motivated me: ever since I was a teen I was always the very skinny girl that never worked out and ate terribly, when I went to my freshman year of University I went from 100lbs at 5’7” to 115lbs, second year of school i went from 115lbs to 125lbs! And now here I am end of THIRD year at 133lbs and 5’7”. I am not big by any means, but I feel big- because I have ALWAYS been the small one in the group- always. It makes me uncomfortable to see that I’m not toned or fit, and eating unhealthy- so I decided beginning of April I was going to get TONED- not to lose weight or be the stick I used to be, but to feel better about myself like I used to.
So that’s my firework ^^
Plus there is a fashion show we have on campus and I would reallllly like to be in it <3 PS- I only discovered your blog two days ago and I can't stop looking/reading… it's addicting, and I love stories about you and The Pilot, hopefully I can find one some day 🙂 (sooner than later haha)
– Madison
I’m not a trainer. What finally made me completely change my lifestyle was feeling completely out of breath when walking up the stairs at the movie theater. I guess I’d never noticed it, but my husband asked me if I was okay because I was breathing so hard and it kind of hit me that I was really out of shape.
Ella was the SAME way with carrots in the beginning…and LOVED avocado. One of my blog friends got her a i <3 Avocado onesie, it was so adorable!
Yes, I have had to break up with clients. I deal with that type of thing a lot. And I complete agree with you about preaching. While I may do it on my blog, kind of, time to time…it's more information purposes. In real life, I will put out the information but at the end of the day someone is going to do what they want to do. People don't change unless they are read to change. It's a choice. I remind them that it is a choice they are making, and they have to decide how their day is going to go.
The worst/hardest for my was after the baby was born and I had to cut back on training, I have to "break up" with a couple of very long-term clients whom I was very close with. I work on peoples homes, a little different from a gym atmosphere so the client-trainer relationship is inevitable. I find clients who I don't have that trust and friendship with don't usually last. THe ones I do, well I have clients I've been seeing for 8 years now! The downside is, they sometimes take advantage. After Ella was born I kind of let go of the ones (who I still adore) that just cancelled constantly, or didn't want to put the work in. It was unfortunate, but we stay in touch still. It was kind of a mutual, where on their end they didn't want to do it anymore. On mine, I needed to free up my (limited) schedule for people who were ready to work. It brings you down as a trainer almost when you can't challenge someone because they are not willing to be challenged.
I’ve always been on the skinnier side but began to take toning and exercising a bit more seriously in my early twenties for vanity reasons. But the real firework was when I moved to the US and gained 5-7 pounds within 2 months just eating salads (and the ocassional latte/dessert)! On a petite 5-3′ person that is felt. Genetically modified food will do that to you, I guess. That’s when I began to take nutrition and exercise much more seriously and itry to make it to the gym 4-5 times a week, baby in tow, or bust out turbo fire or JM or SuzanneBowen work outs at home. I recently started working with a great trainer to really focus on health/body fat/ strength tobe able to be a present, not-fatigued-all-the-time mother and love fitness even more!
tomatoes, artichokes, tempeh = I love that. Been on a huge tempeh kick lately.
Training & working out…I am a “self-starter” and push myself really hard (harder than any trainer could) so I can’t answer the writing a check and hoping for results people. Hopefully they find something they are passionate about whether it’s hiking, lifting, yoga, swimming, etc and can get excited about it.
I’ve always been pretty healthy and active but after I got married eating like my husband and being lazy watching tv with him caught up to me. What really forced me to make a change was when my mom was diagnosed with breast and bone cancer. I think most young people feel somewhat invincible and that things like cancer could never happen to them, but being faced with the possibility of losing my mother it really opened my eyes to how I was treating my own body and that if someone so close to me was suffering from cancer it could most certainly happen to me. I started running, lifting weight, and eating healthier which also inspired my mom and my sister to start healthier also. I agree with you that you can tell someone a million times they need to eat healthy and work-out but they really have to want it for themselves to make the change.
I grew up pretty sedentary, though I was slim until I started having children. I’ve lost weight several times over the years (my heaviest weight was probably 30-35 lbs overweight – not pretty on 5’2″) just by dieting, only to regain some or all of it. What really got me motivated to make serious changes was turning 40 in 2007. I wanted to truly be in good shape and I succeeded at that. My husband retired from the Air Force in 2010 and with all of the changes that entailed, I slacked off to some degree on workouts but continued to eat mostly healthy. Last fall, I joined the local Y and started taking Zumba, Piyo, Turbokick, Powercut. I’ll be 45 this year and I’m in the best shape of my life. I finally feel STRONG and it makes me proud that, when asked three words that describe their mom, both of my daughters (ages 15 and 10) said “Fit!”
I have come across this as a nutritionist many times. People think that going to a nutritionist will be fun, but then I ask them to do things differently than they are doing, and often times they don’t want to do it! It is really amazing when you find someone who really wants to change and they just go for it. You are right, THEY often do most of the work, I just encourage them! <3
I have wanted to hire a trainer for years. Like even went as far as to go to the base gym and pick up the information about each trainer. But, the thought of someone helping me and watching me make a total fool out of myself scares me! I can’t seem to get over the feeling that the whole time the trainer is telling me to “up the speed” and I’m about to fall off the treadmill to my death, that he/she’ll be thinking what an idiot I am. Years of watching Jillian Michaels maybe? Any tips?
This was my fear, too!
The best advice I can give you is to find someone that you click with. I started off by emailing and communicating with my personal trainer before actually meeting her for a session. I wanted to make sure I felt comfortable with her.
Because we’d been emailing for a few days before our first session, the second I walked up to her at the gym, the first thing she said to me was, “I feel like I already know you!”
The entire session was super relaxed and I felt very comfortable with her. We just chatted (as much as I could while breathing heavily lol) and it made the time go by quickly.
Good luck!
Gina: Thanks for sharing your words, I totally relate to you in my approach to clients. People dont resist change, they resist being changed. I share your approach in helping clients towards their health goals and honestly communicating with them when our partnership isnt serving them. Its hard to let go of clients when you LOVE helping them and want them to succeed. I call it, “Letting go with love.” You know they will find their way eventually 🙂
thank you for another great post!
So true! Isn’t that so annoying though. I feel the same way about my parents smoking! They understand all the consequences and have all the resources in the world to quit, but they just have to decide for themselves to do it. But, I agree. I know I wanted to lose and be healthier for years, but never did/could? Then finally it just clicked and I’m not perfect, but much better than I was!
I had to break up with a client that got a massive crush on me and turned a bit stalker – turning up where I had my Friday drinks, emailing me rude jokes, telling me he got jealous watching me train other people. For the rest of my PT career I only trained women.
I started losing weight and working out and needed to eat better to have more energy. The initial weight loss didn’t require much. I got excited and wanted more from myself.
I have always lived a healthy lifestyle. My grandmother instilled within in our family a really balanced, healthy way to live and eat. Every morning growing up my mum and her siblings would have a healthy, filling breakfast- with fresh fruits, grains and the rest. My mum has passed this on to us, and I will be forever grateful for them teaching me the basics of living a healthy lifestyle.
i can undertand just in a different field! and i’m sure your mom can understand too. i’ve had a couple clients that either consistently no showed for their
confirmed appointments, or it’s hard when you want the best for ther hair and they want to run the 400 degree flat iron over it three times while its still damp!
I worked with a trainer once where I was the one not giving it my all. I actually wish he wouldve broken up with me, it would’ve been a good wake up call for me to get in gear!
These meals look so delicious. I’d love to have a trainer. Someone to tell me what I’m doing wrong or to encourage me. I’m not very consistant though so I wouldn’t want to waste their time if I didn’t feel like it that day.
The very first thing that lit a fire under my butt (so to speak :P) and triggered me to start seriously considering my health and fitness was when my anxiety got so bad that I was having panic attacks almost every day. It started interfering with my life to the point that I just HAD to make a change that didn’t involve medication. Combined with some meditation, I cut caffeine out of my diet, started eating a bit better and started working out fairly regularly.
My anxiety got A LOT better (though, I’m afraid I will never completely overcome it, but at least I can leave the house now! :P).
I went through several lulls in my journey, but every few months something new lights the spark. Last year a friend of mine gave me her hybrid bike and I fell in love with cycling. I ended up buying a road bike and started riding regularly.
The biggest thing, though, I have to say is getting pregnant. This may seem cheesy, but before I found out I was preggo, I’d started reading this blog and would think to myself, “Man, if I ever got pregnant, I would want to stay active and healthy like that.” After I got through the first trimester (I was never really sick so much as slightly queasy every so often, turned off by most food and mostly EXHAUSTED), as soon as I got my energy back, I started working out regularly (continued cycling – even participated in the Tour de Cure) and, just to be safe, met with a certified prenatal personal trainer.
Now, I’m almost 31 weeks pregnant and still working out regularly! I really feel like this is something that I will maintain even after my little girl is born. It’s amazing what a motivator a little life growing inside of you can be!
(sorry for the freakishly long comment, btw LOL!)
I decided to make a change when I was diagnosed with hypertension…at the age of 23. I knew I was overweight, but never did anything about it. When my doctor wanted to put me on meds, I knew it was time to change. I follow DASH diet guidelines, avoid caffeine, and exercise for 30-60 minutes almost every day. I’ve lost weight and my BP is consistently below 120/80 now. I’m so glad I got that wake-up call and could start making changes in my lifestyle.
I have broken up with many clients- far more then I ever imagined going into training as a career. The worst was a lady who wanted to seriously over train and I couldn’t ethically be a part of it. She got really nasty when I tried to talk to her about it. Also had many clients who didn’t really want to be pushed and I felt more like a sitter then a trainer. BUT I have had so so so many really sweet and lovely clients who are now friends.
I am not a personal trainer but do have my degree in community health education, have taken personal training/nutrition classes, and have taughts classes at my local gym. People will sometimes come to me for fitness or nutrition advice and they know my background, so I will give them my advice. A girl that I work with is about 100 pounds overweight and is a yo-yo dieter. She’ll ask me for advice one week and then the next be eating tons of processeded foods. It makes me sad and it is so very true that a personal trainer (or healthy and fit person) can only do so much for someone that wants to change!
Yes, I totally hear you! As a trainer, it can be really challenging to work with someone who doesn’t really want to make a change or put in the effort. It makes all the difference when someone really wants to be there and is committed to putting in the work in order to see changes. It’s also very inspiring to see people work hard and push themselves to reach their goal!
And of course it’s the ones who work hard and are committed physically and psychologically to their training who experience results!!
I try really hard to stay active and healthy. Most people on my dad’s side die early of heart issues. They aren’t necessarily unhealthy people so I figure I should put forth a little extra effort. 🙂
Random: May I ask you why you don’t eat red meat? I’m definitely not asking in a judge mental smartass kinda way. I am just genuinely curious about it.
What you said here is so true! Motivation to change has to come from within yourself, otherwise change won’t happen! When I was in high school my parents were always nagging me to eat healthier and exercise, but I wouldn’t because my inner drive wasn’t strong enough. It wasn’t until I hit rock bottom with my confidence that I finally realized how much I wanted to change for myself!
Wow I love your attitude as a trainer! It is so refreshing to hear that you really wanted your clients to make progress and didn’t want them wasting their time and their money to train with you if they weren’t ready for that. I really respect and love that because so many trainers out there are just after the paycheck! I’m not attacking trainers either, I used to be one! I really want your slow cooker chicken too, every time you make it I want some!
Very moral of you! Since my univeristy days I’ve been very health conscious, but I find it’s been amplified lately. As depressing as this sounds, so many people close to me lately have become sick (cancer or cancer scares) & one of my girlfriend’s moms just died of breast cancer. I think when I see people around me get sick, it just solidifies how important it is to not take your health for granted & to do everything in my power to maintain my own health and wellness.
Gina, I SO agree that motivation MUST come from within. I have transformed my body through diet and exercise, lost 35 lbs, and I’ve kept it off for the past 8 years. I still work at it every.single.blessed.day. It drives me nuts when my friends/family members say, “You HAVE to show me what to do.” Or, “I am going to come and live with you so that you can make me exercise and I will eat everything you eat.” I am a teacher and I LOVE to share my passion about diet and exercise and, of course, LOVE to help my family and friends. But, there is not a big secret, and it is not a gift that fell on my lap…..being thin is a conscious effort for me that I decide to do every day. I wake up at 4 am every morning to work out….no one wakes me, knocks on my door, etc. I want it bad enough, so I choose to do it. Unless someone wants it bad enough, no one can do it for them. You can lead a horse to water….
Can’t wait to see some Zumba vids on YouTube! I used to dance growing up, but during my first Zumba class I was so awkward and uncoordinated (WHAT HAPPENED?) I need to practice alone…hahah.
So frustrating. My mom is overweight and she’s always on a “diet” but she needs to make a complete lifestyle change and add exercise into her life. I’ve tried and tried, but she needs to want to do it. I know she wants to lose the weight, but apparently not enough to change :-/
Wait wait wait… rewind…
Green chili goat cream cheese?!?!?!??!
Where do you get this magical concoction?
Your last paragraph hit the nail on the head: change is only going to happen if someone wants it to happen. No amount of begging, pleading, or even plain common sense will make a difference unless they’re willing to take the steps themselves. I speak from experience here: I was overweight for most of my childhood and all of my teenage years until I finally decided in college to get my ass to the gym and start eating better. This came after years and years of my parents/doctors trying to get me to do something. Once I decided to change, I did.
I sometimes need to remind myself of this when it comes to other people. My mom, for example, is a smoker, and no matter how often people ask her to stop, she won’t. I always need to tell myself that she’ll stop when she’s ready; I just hope it’s sooner rather than later.
From a non-trainer perspective.. The thing that definitely made me motivated was the people I was surrounded by at the gym. In my hometown, there are several different gyms and I had been to all but one. At each gym I had been to, at the start of my contract, I stuck to a workout schedule until it slowly deteriorated. However, the gym that I go to now makes me excited to get there. The staff all know me by name and always greet me with a smile. And since they know my name and my workout schedule, I feel guilty if I don’t go because I’ll always have to face the comments from gym staff like, “missed you yesterday!” The staff there, along with the trainers, are so extremely nice and welcoming. That enough has kept me going to the gym — I love being surrounded by people with great attitudes 🙂
The crock pot is quite easily one of the best inventions ever. I use mine all the time, even though we’re a household of two. It’s so easy to make a big batch of something, freeze half, have dinner and then have leftovers for lunch. I’ll be getting my sister a slow cooker when she moves into her new place, too.
I share your philosophy on motivation. I feel like it doesn’t matter what I say it’s up to the client to decide to make those changes in their life. For example, I was recently asked to do a bootcamp for a local gym. So three days a week from 5-6 there would bootcamp in a local shaded park. Thirty women and men signed up. Let’s just say that number slowly dwindled down to 13 by the end of four weeks. Those who stayed were committed to it and those who didn’t simply were not ready to make those changes.
The ‘firework’ that caused my husband and I to revert back to ‘cleaner’ eating was one day we were in the Taco Bell drive thru line. It was about the 4th time that month, and I asked myself, “Who are these people?” We don’t take the easy way out! Why am I at the Border while I have organic grass fed meat in the freezer at home? I should be making nutritious food for my family! We haven’t sat in a drive thru line since.
As far as getting myself to workout, I’m still waiting for that ‘firework’ to go off…
I truly believe that if non-exercisers felt – just once! – that post-workout endorphin flood, they would be sold for life! Yes yes yes, we intuitively know we ‘should’ eat nutritiously and we ‘should’ stay active – but you can’t argue with the natural high!
My ‘firework’ that caused me to want to eat healthier was basically just being an anorexic for a year. It was horrible. I was miserable all the time. I figured that there had to be a way to eat, stay thin, and feel better and was determined to find it. I started by just reading health websites like Health, Prevention, and Blisstree. At first it was nice getting all this new information and trying to implement it, but after a while I noticed that I kept getting the same information over and over again. That was when I switched over to health blogs. They don’t just tell you what to do to eat healthfully, they show you how they do it and they give you recipes, tips, and tricks to do it yourself. They give you a real life application of eating more fruits and veggies or eating vegan or gluten-free.
Aaw I miss you so much too! My sister & I have just been talking about a trip to Canyon Ranch; we’re on vacation this week. What lit a fire under me was that if I was paying for training and had it scheduled then i would have to show up. With your encouragement & making it fun eventually the weight came off & I felt better. I learned if I was consistant changes would happen. I loved that you held me accountable & didnt let me be a slacker.
Mmmm avocado:)
I recently had to “break up” with a trainer. It just felt as thought she no longer cared about me reaching my goals, just the $. She trained others and was much more involved with them….so I knew it was time. I found a new trainer who went far deeper in our first conversation than my old trainer EVER did. Much like any relationship, you just know when it’s time to part ways.
I’m happier now and seeing results!
B
would love your recipe for the slow cooker shredded chicken. that looks divine!
linked to it below the pic- hope you love them!
Hi Gina!
I am a speech therapist trained in feeding therapy. When babies gag it is usually a protective reflex versus a dislike of something. I’m guessing the consistency of the carrots was too thick for her oral motor skills to handle. I’d try watering it down or mixing it with something to make the consistency less thick and try again. Also, sometimes it takes a baby up to 15 exposures to a new food to adjust to the taste. So don’t give up if she refuses a food a few times. She sounds like a fantastic little eater! =)
oh good to know! yeah i’ll definitely keep trying and make them thinner next time. and yes, thank goodness, she is an awesome eater!
At first, it was because I couldn’t breathe when I had my knees up on the bus reading. When I got my initial weight off, it became easier to breathe. Eventually, my goal switched to a single digit size in my jeans. Now, 17 yrs later, it is overall health. I don’t pay attention to the scale anymore, just how I feel. Funny how goals change.